Egoism is an important part of the full existence and development of the individual. Every person worries about their own well-being, regardless of age and gender. Selfishness is thus an unconscious concern for one's life and important events. Otherwise, irrational egoism is observed, which has a destructive effect on the individual.
Selfishness is behavior determined by the thought of one's own benefit and putting one's interests above the interests of others. דירות דיסקרטיות בבאר שבע The opposite of egoism is altruism, although modern psychology considers this opposition to be incorrect.
By default, selfishness is one of the characteristic features of any person and is a normal behavior. However, for some, the consumer principle of life goes beyond the framework of normal thinking, then they speak of a person as an established egoist. With rational or healthy egoism, a person evaluates and understands the consequences of his actions, and with irrational (parasitic consumerism), he acts impulsively and short-sightedly, hoping to get the maximum benefit in any way.
Rational healthy selfishness is normal behavior.
It differs from the irrational in the following ways:
Doing things for oneself, taking into account the interests of others.
The ability to assess the situation through the eyes of another person and make him want to do something for the benefit of another person.
Taking care of yourself first, in order to help other people in the future and love yourself first of all, in order to give love to others.
If a person thinks only about himself, while doing rash acts in the hope of obtaining dubious benefits and satisfying momentary needs, then this behavior is not normal and leads to negative consequences. A reasonable egoist never behaves like this - he is aimed at long-term gain.
The destructive power of irrational egoism leads to the fact that over time a person will not trust himself, will begin to experience a strong dependence on the opinions of others. He cannot adequately assess his strengths and capabilities, which entails a number of failures.
Irrational egoism is divided into several types.
It includes the types indicated in the table:
With a healthy rational egoism, a person is demanding and kind, he does not allow them to manipulate and draw energy from him. He lives for himself, but does not interfere with others. In society, he is respected for his independence and self-sufficiency. With selfishness or narcissism, it is impossible to build productive relationships with other people, since a person initially considers himself superior to others, but needs praise and approval.
If narcissism or selfishness is a moral aspect of a person, then egocentrism is a special character trait. He puts his interests above the rest, because he considers himself better.
The meaning of the word egocentrism is different from selfishness. He is used to living, putting his own interests above all else, and simply does not know that his behavior sometimes hurts those around him and causes harm. Egocentrism is often characteristic of children and adolescents.
With healthy egoism, a man or woman tries to satisfy their needs and interests without harming other people. They predict the future outcome of the actions taken and are aimed at obtaining benefits, which is the normal state. With abnormal egoism, a person tries to get as many blessings as possible, without giving anything away and using other people to achieve the goal.
Egoists
In relationships, egoists are guided only by their own interests and live for themselves. Their partners must fulfill their wishes and whims in exchange for "love". Such consumer relations are similar to the deal "you - to me, I - to you." For example, a woman asks for new shoes, after acquiring which a man can go fishing. The life of such people is like a scheme: if the egoist does not get what he needs, his partner will receive nothing in return. Other signs of selfishness are:
Inability to listen to the interlocutor.
Non-recognition and ignoring the comments of others.
Search for "guilty" in any failures.
Confidence in your own constant rightness.
Boasting.
Feeling of own uniqueness.
Frequent manipulation of people.
Displaying wealth.
Constant desire to attract attention.
The division of people into hierarchical levels.