ANGER-FEAR

Emotions:Anger in relation to fear.

Anger is fear. Anger is a response to fear — a response to a perceived or real threat. Anger is normal. Anger feels like fearlessness, but it isn't. The fearlessness of anger is misleading, because anger is fear based. We are not just afraid of what's outside,we are also afraid of what’s inside,we are afraid of our own feelings,w are afraid of being afraid.Anger is a release of all these fears.Anger and fear are related, even though they may seem very different. Yet it is that difference that leads to them being an opposing pair.source

Since anger is an emotion that is vital to survival, you would think that we would have learned how to express it constructively by now. But, we still treat it like a foreign military invasion and an irregularity of behavior that has no place in our daily lives.About a year ago,I took a friend of mine to the bus that will take her back home in another city that is about four hours away. Since she was going to spend 4 hours without food I had to go and buy her some things to eat while being in the bus but a lady who works there suddenly shouted at me and told me “Its not allowed to bring these things into the bus and if you are going to give them to your friend I will let her leave the bus in the middle of the road”. Suddenly I became very angry and I shouted at her, I told her “Give me your name and the bus number, I will call your boss and show you the consequences of talking to customers like that”.source

The lady then came and apologized and told me that we she was just kidding.I was angry because I was afraid.Behind anger always lies fear, Even if the angry person appears to be strong and in control fear will always be the reason behind his anger.I see anger as essentially a form of fear. And I see anger management as essentially a form of fear management. There are true tigers and there are paper tigers, true threats and symbolic/conditioned threats. Nobody needs to be taught how to fear a real tiger: that’s hard-wired and taken care of. Yet many of us — particularly those struggling with anger — do require help with learning how not to fear paper tigers (symbolic/conditioned threats). And all of us need to learn how not to fear fear itself, in which case, anger management goes beyond fear management and becomes tantamount to mind management.
fearless anger

Life is scary,so we are naturally afraid.
Evolution has prepared us to be afraid, to be somewhat paranoid and on guard so most people are usually on edge.
Defensiveness is normal, even necessary (up to a point) but paranoia and defensiveness divide “what is” into “self “ and “other.”This self-other division gives rise first to fear and then to anger.This self-other dualism — for all intents and purposes — is inevitable and thus normal.
As a species, we are safer than ever — the saber-toothed tigers have all died out — thus, mostly what we fear are symbolic threats, “paper tigers.”Anger is the flipside of the fear coin: the “fight” part of the flight-or-fight self-defense system.Anger is a form of self-defense. It is fear-based.Anger is a response to fear — a response to a perceived or real threat.Anger is a consolidation of a feeling of fear into action, the beginning of an escape from “what is.”In other words,when faced with real threats, anger is a legitimate self-defense solution.