Only you know what you are doing, but you may be doing something that people hate you without knowing it. In order not to frustrate people without knowing it, this time I will explain the behavior that people will hate before you know it.
If you only ask about the complexion of the other person, it will be difficult for you to live as you are, which may make it difficult for you to live or blame others for what happened. If you are afraid to be hated, you will feel excessive stress and pressure. Be aware that the behaviors introduced here that are unknowingly disliked by people will have the opposite effect if you are too conscious of them, and on the contrary, they will be disliked by people.
5 behaviors that people dislike
First of all, putting your smartphone on the table while talking to people is an action that people tend to dislike. You can't just put it on your smartphone without having to talk to another person. Studies have shown that if the smartphone is on the table, it's easy for the other person to feel that the conversation wasn't fun, and it's hard to trust and empathize with the other person. Putting your smartphone on the table makes it easier to mess with your smartphone, so this is definitely a violation of etiquette.
Smartphones are designed to give and depend on small rewards 300 times a day, so if such a thing is on the table, your consciousness will naturally go to your smartphone. When each other's consciousness is taken by the smartphone, it becomes impossible to concentrate on the conversation. If you really want to check your smartphone, it is important to refuse it properly or if you are a lover, simply tell the other person what you have contacted. This will give the other person an understanding and prevent them from feeling anxious or uncomfortable.
The second behavior that is unknowingly disliked is that you just don't want to be disliked. If you don't want to be disliked by anyone, you can't really show yourself, and the other person feels that "this person doesn't tell you what you really mean", so it's difficult to build a connection between your hearts. On the contrary, the more emotional people are, the easier it is to talk.
People who don't show their emotions tend to think that they don't know what they are thinking. It is a person's instinct that when a person who does not know what he or she is thinking enters into his or her personal space, the other person feels uneasy and wants to leave the place. If you don't show your true self because you don't want to be disliked by others, you will be seen as standing in the same position as others in red, and the other person will unknowingly avoid you.
To deal with this, first of all, let's know that there is a rule that "there are people in the world who always hate themselves, but twice as many people like themselves." If there are 10 people, there are 2 people who like themselves, 1 person who dislikes them, and the remaining 7 people are indifferent to themselves.
Even if everyone likes it in the first place, it is a waste of time and stress is accumulated. It's important for people to like you, but if you care about it, you can't show the really good things to the other person.
The third disliked behavior is the imbalance in the positiveness ratio. The positiveness ratio is the ratio of positive and negative content in a conversation. After all, if there is a lot of positive content, it will be difficult for the couple to break up or divorce. By measuring the positivity ratio of the couple during conversation, the study has a 94% chance of predicting whether or not they are divorced 10 years later.
However, be aware that if you use positive words on purpose, you will not be trusted by others. If you have a habit of saying negative words, find out what you like best and find points to thank. After that, you shouldn't say anything extra.
The fourth person's disliked behavior is to inform bad news. Bad news isn't bitterness or slander, but it's useless even if it's the information needed by the other party, such as "I wasn't in the lottery." In one study, the subject decided that the person who had heard the bad news had a bad personality. This makes it impossible to say anything, but the good intentions of telling people the bad news as soon as possible are not conveyed to the other party.
To deal with this, you can shallow the wounds of the other person by sandwiching bad news with positive news or telling positive things after bad news. Of course, people's complaints and slander are hated, so be careful.
The fifth behavior that people dislike is lack of sleep. Lack of sleep unknowingly increases aggression, reduces empathy, makes it easier to sharpen, and reduces concentration. This increases the risk of being disliked by people. Furthermore, in the case of lack of sleep, even if you do not say anything, the personal space becomes wider and there is a strong tendency to feel lonely, and such people have a negative impression that they are unsociable. It will end up.
The reason for this is that when sleep-deprived people become less motivated for social communication, they become more lonely, and that loneliness spreads to others, creating a chain of loneliness. Besides, it is the worst because it increases aggression and reduces empathy. It's a shame that even people I meet for the first time find out that I'm lacking sleep and dislike it.