By having contact with couples and listening to their testimonies, he can see that many stay with life wanting to change some aspects of the person they love, after several years together express "My spouse did not change because he did not want to change". These experiences teach us, among other things, what we should aim for. Ask yourself: How can my husband / wife make the decision to change?
First of all, remember that changes do not occur outside inwards, but vice versa. For this reason, the changes in themselves and in this other will affect the other. Let's see:
a) Communicate assertively,
b) Use a daily affirmative expressions. Remember that motivation is the key to achieving behavioral changes.
c) Seeks to understand the why of his attitude.
d) Be patient, do not change overnight.
e) Instruct yourself on the topic that worries you. "We have not had many things", the human being is complex and there is much to learn.
f) Persevere, do not give place to discouragement or despair.
g) Seek professional help if you consider it necessary, do not limit yourself.
h) Ten present that for God "There is nothing impossible" (Luke 1:37)