I have not always been good to my mom. Resentments, anger and selfishness have often come in the way on both our ends. I was even told on several occasions that I did not 'Bond' when I was a baby. You see mom kept me from knowing my father through my childhood. In the end volatility of their marriage, she put me first (before her husband). I was supposed to be eternally grateful and indebted for that. However I have learned from good preachers that the husband must come first as he was there before the child was born. Otherwise you jeopardize and compromise your marriage.
There are other issues. She has tried to break up most of my girlfriends. I think she feared the possibility of losing me or sharing me. She was bitter on marriage. As a child she kept me from having eye surgery that would have allowed me to drive today. Yes for at least three years I ignored mother's day.
Mom will soon be a ripe age of 88. We still push each other's buttons on occasion. Mom is still judgmental and play the victim role. But as we are both only children, we are all each other has. Each day I grow to appreciate mom more and more. We love one another. We cannot change the past, however we can move forward.
Show love to your mother.
Be good to her and bring happiness to her life. It is not about how she treats you or if she even returns the love. That is between her and God. But make a conscience effort to provide her a selfless love. One that gives with a happy heart without expecting in return. if not for her, do it for God because it is the right thing to do.
I also encourage mothers to be good to children. Communicate and listen to them. Be open and honest. If you cannot provide a good role model for your child, introduce them to a married couple who can be. This could be an older couple who understands love and mentoring.
Don't let resentment or anger rob you of the relationship. Certainly don't let the CPS stand in your way. They do not own you nor should they ever control you. Have conviction and stand firm on your principles of honesty and truth. Your children are watching. Even from a distance in a foster care home or in your presence, they know. Have backbone and love. What you do is duplicated in your children.
Support Family Protection
THIS POST IS DEDICATED TO THE PROTECTION Of FAMILIES AND CHILDREN EVERYWHERE! God bless the folks @familyprotectin who are speaking out for others. I encourage you to support their cause and support the bloggers who expose this tyranny and injustice. I want to offer a shout out to @canadian-coconut and @markwhittam in gratitude for all their efforts in this cause. Support @familyprotection.