Reasons to write
I have read many times in publications where one of the reasons for separating children from their families is to have violent parents or, even worse, to have the misfortune of being placed by social services in families with parents that are considerably aggressive and not physically solvable but also to psychological level, where these do not support infants and young people, on the contrary they treat them as targets and in the worst case, they are constantly beaten even leaving bruises and scars on their bodies.
Based on the above mentioned and the numerous publications I have read about it, I would like to explain what are the reasons that make a person to be aggressive, especially to parents and what can we do to channel these violent individuals, thus minimizing the sufferings of our children who are the ones who deserve all the attention, for not being able to defend themselves, although if from our childhood we learn that the manifestations of "affection" are aggressive, it will also have many repercussions in our adulthood.
Explanatory theories
Aggression by frustration
When as human beings we do not reach our proposed objectives we attack. Let's see from another perspective many parents believe that by having a child the government will provide them with goods such as house and constant income for the maintenance of the children, when this does not happen the parents can attack the most vulnerable.
Biological theory
The students explain that there are certain structures of the nervous system that are responsible for controlling our anger and how we communicate with the environment, within the structures is the frontal lobe that is responsible for our impulse control and the brain tonsil. There are certain studies that point out that individuals who have a brain tonsil with dimensions below the primes are those who perform constant homocides without feeling guilty. We could even take those monsters who are responsible for attacking both children, even be the culprits of ending the lives of infants.
Precipitating factors to be aggressive
Personality traits: among those we have the inability to follow instructions, little ability to
Absence of safe harbor to which to resort in case of needing it, in other words physical.
Low school performance, inability to adapt to the norms of a context
Absence of a link with authority figures
Profile of an aggressor
Need for respect, they strive to maintain respect, they even cause fear in their children, because they want to gain respect with aggressions and harassment.
Inability to feel empathy and guilt, in many opportunities aggressive individuals do not feel guilt when performing these acts, you can even see it in many of the shared stories where repeatedly, children die as a result of beatings and those responsible do not seem to have awareness of it.
Suggestions for parents
Procipiar emotional closeness with their children
Do not normalize aggression, let your children know that a scream can result in a blow
Establish a participatory learning, full of options, this does not mean that we will let do what he wants, we will simply teach him that his actions have good and bad consequences.
Teach him to the point of exhaustion that in case of suffering aggression he should not be intimidated and he must communicate it.
Aggressiveness has many emotional repercussions, especially if an infant is subjected to this for a prolonged time it is likely to suffer consequences on their self-esteem, minimizing even the motivation to perform simple tasks or in many cases (as in several of their stories), the girls internalize the aggression as a normal manifestation and when establishing a relationship they continue to suffer constant blows until they cause death.
Note: I had prepared a video but Dtube does not allow me to upload it. I hope next time I can share it.
I will carry out continuous educational post to provide them with tools to face the repercussions that it generates: the separation of the family as a consequence of the CPS, having violent parents and how to channel the scars after being in shelters of the social service. I hope it will be of benefit to you.
I think it is important what you think and I think that an important factor in the behavior of parents is due to the socio-economic condition in which they live, that is to say that their goals are frustrated and this has the consequence that they discourage these reactions in them, I think that parents should be aware that children are not to blame for the situation they live and that above all they did not say come to the world, it was the parents who said that situation. Segards
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