It was a brilliant afternoon to celebrate being alive. The gateways of the mind were still wide open, a sensibility to pick up on the slightest bits of information from the environment and other people's minds. A sense of witnessing the ultimate show unfold that remains unexplicably self-generating at its core..
As I was walking with two of my friends to the main, one dude caught my attention somehow - which was the first odd thing about the situation. He was far away from me, up there on the hill way off in the distance. I had zero idea why I noticed him in particular - with all the other thousands of people in the valley - but I did.
Like
The very moment I saw him - he saw me.
I stopped walking for a second and he stopped in that same moment, looking back at me from the hill top with a similarly puzzled face. And it seems we started... a conversation. Without words or even gestures but from eye-to-eye, right then and there, across half the valley without ever having seen each other before. I had no idea who this dude was or why we had this energetic exchange but it was happening.
It was "weird" - as the mind tried to put it, without any hope of understanding what was actually going on here.
I felt a strong... reluctance to get to know the dude. Something about him seemed... dissonant to me, if we must use terms of descriptive language. One of those people you see and just know that you are not going to get along with - at all. If you've ever had that sensation...
The amazing thing about it was that I somehow knew in that moment that he felt the exact same way about me and that neither of us meant disrespect to the other one in seeing it so. Just a neutral acknowledgement of dissonance - no judgment. We were "talking" it over in an instant, the music blasting from the PA system and all sorts of other things happening around us simultaneously that we had muted out for a short moment.
Like a clandestine meeting at night by the docks where only the most essential words are spoken and neither party is particularly happy to be there. But it somehow has to happen. An agreement has to be reached. Or something like that.
The whole situation might have lasted only a second or two, and we both agreed that meeting other people who were more resonant was a super good idea.
In that moment I just knew. And I knew that he knew that I knew. We were kinda glad it went that way - the agreement seemed fair enough and warranted no further discussion or interaction.
And that was that.
If you wanted me to paint that mute dialogue with some words, it was like:
"Yup, I see you. Naturally, I respect you dude. Have nothing against ya and I don't want to change you, I frankly don't care much. Just: what the hell man!? Not sure about a lot right now but I know this much: I go my way, you go your way - it's probably for the best. Let's not waste our time and patience trying to overcome something that is obviously not meant to happen. You and I will not be friends, and if you ask me... that is totally fine."
"Obviously man! goodbye."
Both of us nodded slightly at the same time as if signing it. I went on my way, he went on his.
Never saw the dude again during the whole week, nor in the years after. Not that I looked for him either.
"Funny" I thought, "who would have guessed that proclamations of dissonance can be made in such a subtle and neutral manner."We had agreed that avoiding each other preemptively with basic respect for each other was the best choice available, and in that we found common ground that trumped our dissonance at the human level.
Looking back, it seemed... "professional" more than anything.
You don't need to be everyone's friend. You're probably not supposed to be everyone's friend either. But in honoring that, you can meet anyone with all the respect you would like to be met with yourself.
There is no need for war as long as both "sides" are capable of making a preemptive truce by their own volition in choosing to uphold the basic respect for each other that recognizes the essence in all that lives, rather than getting obsessed with the form, and getting hung up on the differences in how the spark's particulates unfolded within this domain of our limited scope of perception.
If that makes any sense... <3
If not, don't worry - come dance with us in August ;)
-Gratitude as Abundance-Engine | Chapter 2-
-Everyone is Someone's Rolemodel | Chapter 4-
-Feet & Friction | Chapter 5-
-"We can totally handle this" | Chapter 6-
-Cosmic Magnetism & The Fear-Override | Chapter 7-
Title image by me, second image by TrueHumanity @ www.truehumanity.eu
haha Yeah I know that type of exchange. Its weird how that happens sometimes.
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