Broad-minded can win friendship

In daily life, it is inevitable that something like this will happen: a close friend has done something that hurts you unintentionally or intentionally. Do you tolerate him, or break up from now on, or wait for an opportunity to retaliate?

There is a saying called "tit for tat". Breaking up or revenge seems to be more in line with people's instinctive psychology.

But by doing so, the resentment will get deeper and deeper, and the enmity will accumulate more and more. It's really time to avenge one's grievances. If you take an attitude that others can't imagine, tolerate each other, and show an attitude that others can't achieve, your image will instantly become tall, your magnanimity and openness will make your spirit reach a new level, and your personality will reflect noble brilliance.

Tolerance, as a virtue, has been highly praised by people, and as a psychological factor of interpersonal communication, it has been paid more and more attention and favored by people. Tolerance is the best medicine to relieve a knot in one's heart. Broad-mindedness is the best way to make friends. Tolerance can make you win friends' friendship.

Most people always think that it is fair to get retribution for doing something wrong. But the English poet Keats said: "People should tolerate each other. Everyone has shortcomings. In his weakest aspect, everyone can be cut and crushed."

Everyone has weaknesses and flaws, and can make mistakes of one kind or another. As a perpetrator, we should try our best to avoid hurting others, but as a victim, we should tolerate each other with a broad mind, avoid the generation of resentment and negative emotions, eliminate artificial tension, and heal physical and mental trauma.

Jefferson, the third president of the United States, and Adams, the second president of the United States, are vivid examples. On the eve of taking office, Jefferson went to the White House to tell Adams that he hoped that the tit-for-tat campaign did not destroy their friendship. But it is said that before Jefferson could speak, Adams growled, "You drove me away! You drove me away! "

From then on, the two broke up for several years, until several of Jefferson's neighbors visited Adams. The strong old man still complained about the embarrassing thing, but then blurted out: "I have always liked Jefferson, and I still like him now."

The neighbor passed this message to Jefferson, and Jefferson invited a friend who was familiar with each other to pass the message, so that Adams knew his deep friendship.

Later, Adams wrote a letter back to him, and they started the greatest correspondence in American history. This example tells us what a precious spirit and noble personality tolerance is.

Tolerance means understanding and accommodation. It is a catalyst for the integration of interpersonal relationships and a fastener for the bridge of friendship. Tolerance can also turn hostility into friendship. When Dale Carnegie introduced the author of Little Women on the radio, he said the wrong geographical position absently. One of the listeners wrote bitterly to scold him, and scolded him to pieces.

Carnegie really wanted to write back and tell her: "I made a mistake in the location of the area, but I have never seen a rude woman like you." But he controlled himself and didn't fight back at her. He encouraged himself to turn hostility into friendship. He asked himself, "If I were her, would I be as angry as her?"

He tried to think about it from her standpoint. He called her and repeatedly admitted his mistake and apologized to her. The wife finally expressed her admiration for him, hoping to further deepen her friendship with him. Tolerance has such great power. How can we cultivate this tolerant character to understand others?

First of all, we can try to be friendly to those who hurt ourselves. Tolerance is a kind of broadness, a kind of realm, and an embodiment of good personality. People who have hurt themselves intentionally or unintentionally should have the spirit of tolerance. Although it is difficult to do so, it can better reflect your broad mind and generosity.

Treat people who have hurt you with your understanding, care and tolerance, and make them feel your sincerity and warmth. Some people may say, does tolerating others prove that they give up their principles and are too weak? In fact, tolerance is the expression of strength and the sublimation of thought.

Secondly, we can tolerate and accept other people's opinions. People all want to get along with those who know how to tolerate themselves, but don't want to stay with those who are always gossiping about themselves. Bringui said that "critics" who find faults with others and often teach others lessons are not expected to have any friends.

According to the strict standards of ethics and religion established by yourself, ask others to vote for their own good people, and whoever sees them will retreat. And those who can tolerate and like others to appear as they are often have the power to move people and make them positive. When you want to get along well with friends, you should respect each other's personality and strengths, tolerate each other's weaknesses and shortcomings, and never try to criticize or change each other.

In addition, we should try to discover and recognize the value of others. It is easier to tolerate the shortcomings and defects of others, but the difficulty is to discover and recognize the value of others, which is a more positive attitude towards life. As long as everyone is willing to look for it, they will find out many advantages and strengths of others.

If you can discover and recognize the strengths of others, you will realize the full meaning of life value. Only when we can accommodate both the short and the long, can we show our broad mind and noble personality.