Waking up this morning, I realized that there are two categories of people who stay in our lives that we may probably confuse for each other.They both have such a great similarity but they have a lot of difference as well.
Analyzing The Similar But Different Categories.
The first category of people are those people who are always around us. These set of people claim to be our friends, they may probably stay with us because they feel they have something to benefit or sometimes they may have even seen something big coming, so they do not want to miss out and they decide to stay.
Taking a close look at this people, you will realize that, they have not added any positive value to your life, they have nothing meaningful to add to you, they are just around helping you to while away time.They do not care about the way you feel or even your problems.
These people too, may like your company, they may like the fact that you are funny, so they want to be around you, still adding nothing. The fact that they like your company does not make them have good intentions towards you and it has well does not make them care about your growth and development.
The second category of people are those who are always there for you, these people are the ones who have your best interest at heart, they are particular about your growth and success, all they want is to see you attain success.
These set of people do not just stay around you, rather they correct you, speak to you and love you for whom you are.
These are the people who are always available whenever you need a shoulder to lean on, they are always there for you through thick and thin and they should never be taken for granted.
Never confuse these two categories, study your friends and analyze them, this will help you know how you will place them and it will help you know whom you can confide in or otherwise.
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Thanks @gbenga for this piece. You said it all. I am most times very cautious of people that always want to be around me all the time. For me, when you really need them, they are never there.
But come to think of it, why would they be there for you. When they spend useful times playing around. They will have nothing to offer as they have not improved themselves in anyway. And you will find out, you not the only one they hang around (Well, not every time true, but in many case through).
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And its so depressing to find out that while you are doing all you can to help others, when you need someone to stand up for you,there is no one out there. It literally tears me apart.
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Baba G, I am both o, I have reasons to be both !!
As a friend I stand to benefit from you, and you stand to benefit from me.
To be there for you, you have helped me with encouragements to become a better person, I don't pray you fall into the same shoes so that I can render help, but if such happens, I will be there. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
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You are right... Those who are around us might be parasite who has nothing to give in return. While those who are there are always born when there is distress
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This is so true. Different people stay in our lives for different reasons.
The most important set are those who stay around for who we truly are. The care and accept us just as we are.
Thanks for sharing @gbenga. Have a wonderful day
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Yes that is so true,there are friends who add value to you,and there are those who doesn't ,they are just there ,yes you can't drive them because they still love you,but you must learn how to position them in your life so that they don't hinder your progress and your vision,stay with friends that have like minds,interest and vision,friends that can inspire you,motivates you and stir you up to bring out the potential inside of you.
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Awesome friendship post...only friend is real
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Proximity is not an issue for those that are always there for you.
Learning to diffrentiate from these has been an issue for people. I could remember i was once in such a situation. Thanks to God it didnt linger for too long.
Thanks for this @gbenga.
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This two set of people are always part of our lives it is now left for us to identify one from the other because weather we like it or not this types of person will always exist
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I cannot agree more.
One of the biggest ironies is that a man can feel lonely in a crowd!
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Good morning @gbenga. Yeah, your right sir, but we often make mistakes differentiating friends, colleagues, allies and family. Today family has trangress blood relation. A friend is someone you can easily communicate with, a colleague is someone within your work environment and an ally is someone you can rely on or unite with for a mutual benefit but someone you call family is friend, colleague, family all in one.
Perfectly being able to distinguish who a person is and ability to take advantage of it can boost your progress in life.
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wow....!!! great post thanks for sharing post @gbenga
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Humm, words well said.
I never knew there is a diffrence, i just count everyone has my friend.
I will begin to take note now. Thank you!
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There are lots of people like that- they love to be around. Life is to short to waste time on such people, that's why its good to keep less friends.
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Be it as it may, a true friend always respond to stimulus not minding the situation on ground... And always closer than a brother.
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Yes. Very well articulated.
Most people only want to get their stake of the cake so to speak. They seek Happiness and Joy yet do so by escaping the hardships. This is merely a running away from from one's own fear we don't want to face, and seeing somebody else experiencing this issue entails confronting ourselves.
Light and Dark are inevitably glued together like two sides of a coin. It is only when we accept the interplay between both that we begin facing our inner abyss. Only once we have experienced the Dark we really know what Light means. In an inherently meaningless world we can only give meaning to one side of the spectrum by experiencing the other.
Great topic! Best example how a single word or phrase changes everything! Thank you!
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Boss you nailed it
Thanks for this eye opener.
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Another set of people that are always around, one might even mistake them for friends, but they are there for two reasons, for the benefits they get from you and they also open doors for enemies outside, to hurt one, may God continue to protect us. Thanks for this insightful message.
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You're right @gbenga, the difference between the two are very simple. Someone who always there is very much important than the one who always be around because interm of need he/she will be there even when you're passing through hard time.
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@gbenga, you are absolutely right, these two set of people has a role to play in your life, and unless you identify that particular role they are there to play and place them according to where they belong, you miss it all, but the worst thing is that you will possibly like the first set of people than the second because the first will tolerate you for the now but harm you at a long run while the second will scorn and correct you for the now which is for your own good and later favour ls you.
THANKS FOR SHARING
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Nice one, friends and amm.
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The first category of friends are often parasitic people. I used to have one like that. Anytime he texted me, I'd know he needed my help. The funny thing is there was never a way we could really flow, we had absolutely no common interests and I wasn't feeling the friendship, it was fake friendship, I cut him off in the long run.
Great post! Upvoted and resteemed.
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