Extract the honey but do not break the hive

Everything that has gentleness in it is beautified and whatever lacks it is spoiled. When you meet someone, giving him a bright smile and a kind word, you are displaying a characteristic of the truly successful man, a characteristic that even a bee exhibits. When a bee lands on a flower (doing so for a practical purpose) it does not destroy it, because God rewards gentleness with that which He does not give for harshness. There are certain people, whose personalities are like magnets, attracting everyone who is nearby, simply because they are loved for their gentle talk, their good manners and their noble deeds.
Winning the friendship of others is an art that is mastered by those that are noble and pious: a circle of people constantly surrounds them. Their mere presence in a gathering is a blessing, and when they are absent they are missed and asked about.
They suck out malice from others with their sincerity, forgiveness and gentleness. They forget evil that was enacted upon them and preserve the memory of kindnesses received. Biting, harsh words may be aimed at them, but such words pass their ears without entering and continue on their path without ever returning. They are in state of calmness. People in general are safe from suffering any harm at their hands.
Truthfulness is beloved by God and is purifying soap for the heart. And there is no deed that gives such pleasure to the heart or has greater reward than the remembrance of God.