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Being happy. .. It’s the most important thing in life. They really should have thought us this in school because still not everyone knows how to become happy.
Luckily for us positive psychology scientists have discovered a few things about being happy. As a student of psychology I did some research and today I would like to discuss 7 habits of happy people!

If you really want to experience a happy life you can’t wait for happiness to magically appear to you. You have to get up and take action to make it happen. Luckily you don't need much for this. Just a journal and an open mind! :)

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Oke are you ready? Let's start the list!

-1. They practice acts of kindness.
In your everyday life. Look for small ways were you can show kindness to the people you meet. It’s easy to do this to the people you know. But try to extend your kindness to people you don’t know so well. The mailman, the store clerk or just a random bypasser.
These acts can be really simple things like a friendly smile or a kind word or you can pay someones sandwich or leave a letter in the train for someone you do not know.
You can be as creative as you want. The more you will do it, The more fulfilling it becomes.
So think about the ways you can be kind to others in day to day life. Write it down in your journal and start acting on these ideas every day.

-2. They Nurture their relationships.
There was a study done where they asked people on their deathbed what their regrets were. The biggest regret for most people was that they wish they had spent more time with the people whom they love. Relationships are so important in our lives. But relationships do require time and care. They also require communicating and resolving conflict and showing vulnerability to those people. If you spend a lot of time with your loved ones you won’t regret it!
So make it a habit to contact your loved ones more frequently. If you would like to see someone more in your life. Make it a priority to contact this person more often or contact someone from your past you would like to see again.

-3. They Are Grateful
There is so much to be grateful for still it is really easy to forget these things when we are rushing trough our daily lives. Luckily it is also really easy to practice thankfulness.
Look at the circumstances that you enjoy in your life. Keep a gratitude journal where you write down the things that you are thankful for every day. You having a warm bed, someone telling you a fascinating story, the sun that is shining or your ability to see.

-4. They are optimistic.
Do you see the glass half empty or half full? Or even better do you notice that there is a glass at all!
It’s a tough life when you are always negative. If you want to cultivate optimism,
Begin by becoming aware of how many negative thoughts and words you have everyday.
Replace these thoughts and words by positive and uplifting words. It might feel a bit forced at first but the more you do it the easier it becomes.
Here are some examples to get you started. Try to think about the positive in these situations.
It is raining…. The bus just passed me by… My girlfriend broke up with me.. etc.

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-5. They Practice forgiveness
Happy people know how to forgive others and themselves. Be the bigger person. Make up your mind to forgive the other person. Realise that they did what they thought was right otherwise they would have done something differently. Forgiving others will give you much more ease and pleasure in life.
Forgiving yourself is probably even more critical than forgiving other people. Acknowledge that the things you did where the things you thought that were the best at the time. So when you made a mistake it’s not something that you did on purpose it just had to happen so that you can learn from it. You can even write a letter of forgiveness to yourself.
Another good way to practice forgiveness is to close your eyes and wish the best for the person that you want to forgive and of course wish the best for yourself. This will put your mind in a face of goodwill for the other person and yourself.

-6. They take care of their body.
Your health has a great impact on your happiness. When you are out of shape it’s harder to live life to the fullest. There are many studies that show us that people who excersise feel better mentally and psysically. If you are not already excercising. You can start small. Make a morning walk for 10 minutes in the park. Or eat one more vegetable in your daily dish. When you start to do this you will eventually feel what this does for you and you will probably want to do it even more.

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-7. They avoid comparisons and over-thinking.

Do you sometimes look at someone and feel jealous? That person has something that you would like to have. Comparing is really a toxic thing to do and it’s not going to help you on your way to happiness. When you are comparing yourself with others you are measuring your self worth to the standards of someone else. Instead measure yourself by your own personal standards. Remind yourself of these habits and start practicing them. Your happiness has nothing to do with how goodlooking your neighbour is or how much money your friends are making. When you feel yourself having thoughts like this. Go do something uplifting like excersise or working on your dreams.

Well that's it.. the 7 habits of happy people!

What makes you happy? Share this in the comments!

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Don't sorry, be happy!

Haha ;) But sorry can be nice sometimes!