MY THOUGHTS ABOUT THE CHILD

Infant children were true to their instincts. I cry even if I have a bowel movement, cry if I am hungry, I cry when I am sick, I cry when I am sleepy, and I cry even if my needs are not met. It is true that it is very difficult for parents to raise a child because of this overly accurate emotional expression. Therefore, it is very natural for postpartum depression to come. After all, parents are human too, and they should have a rest or joy that they should enjoy, but because they can't do it, they are subject to stress. There are hardships and difficulties, but 'kids at that age are always right.' There is a saying. this is not my personal opinion, but the opinion of experts. Children try to satisfy their individual needs because they are immature, but these are demands for survival, not for their own enjoyment. For example, a child does not cry even though he makes a mistake while defecating, but is calm. .later, the child may suffer from skin irritation due to long-term neglected bowel movements, and as the situation progresses, it can lead to skin disease.

Another thing, if the child eats hot food and does not cry, the child's delicate skin can burn and sting. in this way, a cry which is an expression of a child's desire appears on its surface in a low dimension, but in reality a child asks his parent, his guardian, to protect himself by exposing his weakness through crying.

There's a saying called "I hate seven years", and although it's actually based on personal experience, I think a child's ego is mainly created around the age of four. Of course, these could be individual differences. The reason for this is because I remember those days. memory can be a simple sequence of moments, but on the other hand, remember because there are enough thoughts for the child to think about at that moment. The self is formed when you can judge (for example, memories of that time were good or not). Of course, primary self-formation is not perfect, so it can change from time to time, but it is still a good moment right now, and you have to instill that you are loved by my parents.

What I'm talking about from babies is because I want to talk about adolescence. adolescence is a time when a person's self-image changes drastically, unlike childhood, which changes according to the situation. at this time, as everyone knows, puberty is coming, and puberty is literally 'the time when she wants spring to come into her life'. It looks really good, but it's a tough time. this is a time when you think a lot about yourself as you say that this is the time you want spring to come into your life. during infancy, or until puberty afterwards, a child who is loved by his parents can spend time wisely too.

Of course it's difficult. Nowadays, I usually want to imitate adults or worry about my own identity, but I often worry about 'where I come from and where I am going'. There is more time to suffer such sadness than to eat or sleep. after all these worries, the answers are unresolved and frustrating. A child who feels frustrated gets upset with the things he does and his life. I've always hated studying at my desk. The child does not express his worries. It's called shame. I want to be an adult and I don't want to pretend to be a child, that is, I want to deny my identity, but I hate saying this to someone more than just dying.

Then they blamed their incompetence and cried many times. this is the time when people cry just looking at the fallen leaves. I feel the leaves are the same as mine. Then a big decision was made and I told my parents. It's good if you take it well, but most parents forget the past they've been through and treat it as nothing. It's natural for parents. Parents have the responsibility and obligation to do more than that. therefore, I focused on something other than children's jokes. Because the timing is the right time, my child must be better than the same class B, and must be proud of others. So, "It's time for you to worry about it. Don't waste it and learn !it is said that the mother's friend is number 1 in the whole school. What is missing? "

From the child's point of view, that means they have been removed and then attached. The greatest advice to a child could be the same idiot from the child's point of view. so the child leaves his parents and doesn't like it because no one recognizes him. There's nothing scary about straying, and the behavior of free-spirited adults is utopia and heaven for them (kids). smoking and drinking alcohol regardless of location, and behavior that is not noticed by parents are targets of jealousy in children.

Children his age also have similar thoughts, so that a sense of homogeneity is buried deep. therefore, the true entertainer of life is a friend, and a friend has no equal. If such an entity did something especially for adults, it would naturally be natural for him to want to try it. there are things I want to do because these belong to adults, but if I don't do them, I feel embarrassed for some reason.

I know that adult culture such as smoking and drinking, assault and sex are wrong, but once is difficult, not twice. their shield always said, "Everyone lives that way, but what?" This is the reason for this thinking is that, going back in time, most adults rebelled against their indifference to themselves or their desire to deny their situation.

In this way, children live with great interest. It's not just a problem for children, it's the same for all humans and all animals. For example, why do people buy clothes and have self-satisfaction, but in all cases it is because of other people's attention. expensive makers are in the limelight of making themselves stand out, and there is a psychology to be praised and praised by others. The same is true for children. I want to make it visible and searchable. therefore, competition for property belonging to adults (deviation in children) also appears in their age group.

For example, suppose a friend is smoking a cigarette. Another child who saw it and was stimulated to bite the cigarette and light it. the first smokers managed to ignite them. But when I took a sip, I started screaming. Then, the friend who smoked a lot spoke to him as if he was making fun of him.

"Ah. Idiot"

A child who is a tobacco beginner is motivated by words. Then one day, there was a debate about the amount of smoking. This is an argument for competition. This is 3 packs and 4 packs. The same is true for drinking.

In fact, when I was at school, a friend of mine bragged that one day, they secretly went out and ate alcohol without a boarding teacher. So when I asked the lamb, he said beer is a drum and soju is two bottles, and he said he was going to die of heartburn. but the funny thing is his smile spreads thinly on his face Back then, I pretended to be a cool person, but the truth is, on the other hand, I thought it was an adult-like thing for a while.

We must reflect on, regret and pray for this social trend. It is important to acknowledge and promote that adults are not attracted to children, rather than adult rebuke at first. Instead of quitting smoking and drinking with unconditional friends, you should listen to their stories completely, empathize with them, and be an entertainer at the same time. and when you really need it, you need the wisdom to go into detail and slowly why it's bad.

Young people also shouldn't ignore them, even if their egos are not finished. when they become adults and mature, they become reckless adults. If so, the fault will be the fault of the predecessors, not the fault of the children who grew up like that. Children don't grow up the way adults teach. The child is a mirror of an adult. watch and learn like adults. Remember.

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