It is two different ways, it is one thing to choose the spouse in marriage and it is another to choose the right attitude to courtship. A wrong attitude to Christian courtship can still lead to issues or disappointment even when the right choice has been made.
Therefore, Christians in courtship must be righteous through and through if they would enjoy the benefits of marriage. Sister, you must aware that a guy will definitely try his best to please you during courtship. He would call you by several kinds of pet names, do things for you to make you safe and secure.
However, after the wedding and you start to live together, his bad ways will eventually be noticed. Some people say love is blind, it appears true but the one that also says marriage is an eye-opener has equally been proven to be true over and over again. Men are not the only ones guilty of this, women are also guilty.
Brother, you will also get to know many things about the characters of your wife after the wedding ceremony. This is why some people recommend that couples should live together during courtship but is this good for the children of God? It's definitely No!.
Just because you are in courtship doesn't grant you the right to start to cohabit. Some so-called sisters also try to seduce innocent brothers to get them pregnant so that they will get married quickly. The Lord hates this seriously Christian courtship must be characterized with sincerity. It is important to share your past and present experiences with your potential spouse.
You and your partner should also lay your future bare in the hands of the Lord Jesus. While there may be serious misunderstanding during courtship, you would have to prayerfully recheck it if the relationship is rife with problems from the wrong demands of your partner. It is better to have a broken relationship than a broken marriage.