-How to harness the power of relationship
-How to keep and nurture the relationship
-How to mend a broken relationship
Before we start
We'll be making some declarations😊
I walk in divine purpose this new year
I strive for peace with all men
I am intentional about my relationship
I am liberated and free from purposeless relationships
I make quality decisions from now
I receive all God has for me this year 2020
In Jesus' name. Amen!
First, I'll start by defining a relationship.
It is how two or more people talk to, behave towards, and deal with each other.
We should remember the relationship is not just between 2 people (male and female) intending to get married, it also boils down to how we deal with our family members, friends, colleagues at work, etc. Because we're all believers, I'll like to refer to the relationship here as a godly relationship! In whatever relationship we find ourselves, God is supposed to be glorified.
I'll like teaching to be as interactive as possible because I'll like to be very practical
In recent times, I haven't seen myself as a relationship expert, this is because I've made several mistakes and was almost giving up on myself on relationship matters😁
But God is ever faithful!! Hallelujah🙌🏾
God is interested in this very area of our life
Of course, our relationship with God comes first, the way we relate with others is secondary
When we commune with Him
He'll surely lead us on the right path for us to relate with others. Our family, potential spouses, friends, and even colleagues
While preparing for this
The only passage that kept coming to my mind concerning relationship is 2 Corinthians 6:14
And also
1 Corinthians 15:33😊
2 Corinthians 6:14
[14]Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
1 Corinthians 15:33 But don't fool yourselves. Don't let yourselves be poisoned by this anti-resurrection loose talk. "Bad company ruins good manners."
(MSG)
I once came across a post by Pastor Cornelius Lindsey where he said you don't have to 'cut people off', just get focused on fulfilling your God-given purpose, the process will separate them from you eventually.
By the time we start hearing statements like 'you've changed', it calls for evaluation
It's either the person is speaking out of his or her insecurities, or out of his true concern for your well being
Once we're focused on our purpose and calling and we keep moving forward
You'll be far from Those that are standing still
And truth is
Some of them might be too proud to admit and ask for help
Instead, they'll see your progression as a threat to their laziness
This is why I want us to realize that progression will eventually cause a distance between two bodies. This doesn't mean the love is lost, but it might be because the other person stopped running or probably stopped to rest.
Now I'm not saying to let them go totally, you can keep praying for them as well. But if they're not helping you spiritually, please let them go🥺
A lot of people are depending on us to keep progressing
This is why we can't afford to stop
How to harness the power of relationship
Harness simply means to utilize something for a particular purpose
We're fulfilling God-given purpose in whatever relationship we find ourselves in 2020!!!
The best ways to do this
If it's a relationship heading towards marriage, pray for direction before you start planning your future with them. Are you sure he's the one? Are you sure she's the one?
Once this is done and a confirmation is gotten
Go ahead and start planning your future with the person🙌🏾
But Remember, the devil is after Christian homes.
One shall chase a thousand, and two shall put ten thousand to flight.
Are you putting thousands to flight now that you're single?
Now if you're sure she's the one like a lady, I think it's not a crime if you get close to her and be her friend (if she's not your close friend yet though)
There are levels to this thing😁
And then keep praying to God to speak to her
Let her know your intentions
Then wait for her response
You people can now sail the boat😁
If she says yes
But if no
Please take it with good faith
God can not forsake you if you're truly serving him
Even when Bro John thought God already forsook him
He didn't know He had better plans for him
And what is coming is going to be better than what has gone
Tell God you've approached her and she rejected you
What next should I do? Should I still wait? Should I move on? Is there still green light from her end? Or is it red???
I wish I could scream this 😁
We should never forget it is a thing of the mind
You don't necessarily have to be a virgin to be pure🌝🌝
One can be a virgin and still be impure
Watch your thoughts, guard your hearts
Let's not focus on the don'ts when we're in a relationship
The don'ts such as 'we do not want to fornicate, we do not want to sin'
We eventually become scared not to fall into sin
Forgetting that we become slaves to whatever we're scared of
Instead, let's focus on what we want to do
Such as
We want to fulfill the purpose
When our mind is fixed on things like this
We won't even have time to think about what the devil has planned for us
Now I'm not saying there won't be temptations, of course, there will be. But remember we're not slaves to our body. We bring our bodies under subjection!
These temptations are very normal when we're with someone we love
God put it there
So we will help ourselves and also help our partners by doing things like meeting in public places (no house visitation when the other party is alone, no personal night vigil behind closed doors
Now still on relationship
We'll address mending a broken relationship
When a relationship is broken, God can fix it (this one is for family members o)
If it's between the intending couple and it's broken, please learn to let go
It will hurt but you have to let go
If God has delivered you from a wrong relationship
Please do not be tempted to go back
I'm so thankful God has broken this table in my life
Forgive the person
But let him or her go
Learn to say
Yes, I forgive you
Yes, I love you
No, we will not rebuild this bridge
And if he or she doesn't apologize to you
Still forgive, because while waiting for an apology, you might miss your healing
In the year 2020
We trust the right set of people, we remain in wholesome relationships
And do not enter another relationship except you've been healed completely
For all, you know
She might also be going through hard times, she might need healing too
And for those that are single
Please know that it is better to be alone with God than to be unequally yoked with a fool
Who is a fool?
One who doesn't know God.. You can't afford to be in a relationship with one who doesn't know God. Big trouble! How do you expect to chase ten thousand
2 Corinthians 6:14
Whatever costs you your peace is way too expensive😊
If your mind is not at peace
Let it go
It's not for you
Don't even stress it
I might be awake at night
And will just decide to stalk some people😩
Then I check my IG, the first post I'll see is their post 'stop stalking them, they aren't noticing you'
I kept checking someone who hurt me😂
Like it would change anything🤣
We might have issues with our colleagues or friends or even family members
So I'll quickly talk about that and close
In our relationship with colleagues
They should know who you are. Your light alone is enough. Let it shine!!!
So they'll know you're different from the rest. We might be in the world, but we're not of this world
Can people check your phone and be saved
1 Corinthians 15:33
So stop fooling yourselves! Evil companions will corrupt good morals and character.
Are your friends helping you?
I'm glad we've addressed it at the beginning.
Communication helps build relationships too
If you're single, remember it's a time of growth, self-discovery, spiritual discovery and service
And if you're in a relationship, be intentional about the future. You and your partner should give you all for things to work, learn to forgive. Forgiving means not bringing up the past whenever you both have a new fight, let it go..
Lastly, choose to follow where Jesus leads and not just what looks familiar