Don’t dress shabby, even if you don’t have expensive clothes, dress well. Always look presentable.
Don’t be extremely possessive: don’t monitor
a lady (checking her phone messages, calls, her where abouts),you are putting yourself under unnecessary pressure, you’ll die young. Don’t stress and die for a lady you have not yet married.Only give 100% of yourself to God, not a lady you have not married because he won’t Break your heart.
work on friendship first, when friendship is sorted she will eventually see no other friendship that is relevant.
Appreciate a lady’s effort to please you. (e.g. She buys a tie; don’t say I don’t wear ties or I don’t like the color)
Hygiene is vital: shave your beards, don’t be like a terrorist from Afghanistan. Even Joseph when he came out of prison he shaved before going before Pharoah. Smell well.
don’t date a girl because of her image and status: most girls from rich families can’t cook and are most likely not to appreciate your efforts to please them, they are hard to impress (e.g. you surprise her with a car, she be like where is the surprise?). But someone from a humble family will appreciate gifts.
Don’t be moved by physical appearance: true beauty is her character. A foolish lady thinks everything about herself is her body. Develop yourself: continue being educated…etc.
Never rebuke a lady in public, in public she won’t see a rebuke but an embarrassment : call her to a corner or private place and tell her(“what you doing is embarrassing me”). Because women don’t think with their brain but with their emotions; use the right words.
Prove a lady’s character before committing, don’t hurry to commit or talk about marriage. Make sure she really has a good character, if she got something you can’t cope with, don’t hope, leave today.
- Don’t marry a lady for cooking or sex: nothing brings dignity like moral sanity.
- Have a goal for your life, no one plans to fail, they fail because they are not prepared.
- Don’t price love with money/materials. You can’t buy it.
- Don’t abuse her.
- Don’t look for a perfect girl, none is perfect: the person you are admiring, you don’t know their baggage or rather their garbage.
- A real man: talks less, is an investor, is firm, has a mind of his own, he loves God, sets for excellence, respects parents. When you are firm you are not pushed around.
- Before meeting parents make sure you are grounded in prayer.
- the worst kind of pride is spiritual pride, a lady even tells you on your face she is spiritually matured more than you. She will never listen to you.
- Its only when you can’t correct things that you leave the relationship: but try to fix things first. If a year passes and no change at all, not even small change stop hoping, leave!
- make sure you know her family: any lady you don’t know her family members you don’t know her (if she don’t want you to meet any of them, something is wrong, she is hiding something).