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On many Christian teenage, courtship and marriage platforms. I have witnessed and been part of debates over some controversial issues in Christian relationship and courtship.
Among all these, none stands above all except the issue of display of affection between couples in a romantic relationship.
Some say there should be strictly NO display of affection, while some believe that any expression is appropriate as long as, there is no sex involved.
Well, I have decided to pen down my opinion concerning the issue in the form of:
JUST A KISS.
Note that this is not a guideline for all relationships but my opinion only.
Normally, the sequence of serious relationship between a man and a woman goes like this: acquaintance, friendship and after a period of close observation, decisions to pursue a serious relationship (courtship) which may or may not lead to marriage.
During this period of courtship, their romantic energy is focused on each other ALONE and there is likely a need to express this affection.
The question is, how far is appropriate?
There are forms of expression that should be frowned at, especially those that cause sexual arousal which include: fondling, cuddling, caressing and even bear hugs(where both bosoms are touching).
Ohh... I almost forgot: what about kissing?
Some of you say it isn't bad in itself...a Christian couple can kiss to the glory of God, according to a Christian blog. This may be true but you should know that everyone has his moments of weakness when anything regrettable can happen.
Consider this:
An inferno which can raze down a whole street to ashes is only caused by a little flame. With just the right temperature and fuel, Vroooom! The whole place is ablaze. 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
A kiss can be such a flame.
It can start with an innocent peck on the cheek, then the side of the mouth and proceed to intimate liplock.. which in the time of intense passion and sexual tension can escalate to uncleanliness.
That is why even a couple with the most honourable intentions can sink into fornication and pulling away from God.. which started from... a kiss.
In my opinion; as long as a couple is not married, holding hands and side hugs are the safest form of affectionate expression. In this way, there is a close to zero chance of landing in regret, should the relationship come to an end.
A kiss is part of the Marriage Package a couple is reserving for the day society will recognize them as husband and wife. To prematurely open it, would be a shame to open it and face the consequences afterwards.
Let they who think they stand, be careful so that they would not fall.
Be wise
God bless you all. and happy new week