Overcoming Pain and Struggles

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Most of us have been through so much pain in our lives whether in the past, a few years, a few weeks ago or as recently as yesterday.
Most of us perhaps might be going through some pain or struggles in life.
We have wished to talk to someone, we have wished for people, family and friends to understand our pain and struggles with life, and wish they will say to us "it's going to be okay or count on me, I'm here if you need me.
But we have been left disappointed and let down by life and by people who we thought will hold us down during trouble times but they didn't. And sadly, hear this from me, they won't.
I have a few advice for you, lessons from my own life. If you will take these and adopt them to cope with all the struggles and pain in your life, you will come up on top always.

First of all, stop throwing a pity party about your life and your struggles. Often times, we cry, feel miserable and project that misery or sadness unto ourselves hoping other people will see and sympathise with us. Here's the shocking thing, no one else will tell you. No one cares about your misery or pain. Why?? Because everyone is dealing with one pain or struggle on their own. So encourage yourself, my brother, my sister.
For instance, stop saying, I am poor and I can't seem to attract money into my hands no matter how hard I try or work harder. Admit that you are poor, ask yourself simple ways about how you can get money... let your mind, body and soul run with it and you see how that feeling of poverty will escape your thoughts once you hit your first possible solution.

Secondly, What you must to overcome your pain or struggles in life is to accept and acknowledge that this is really happening to you and you need to deal with it head on.
We are fond of sweeping our pain under the carpet and choosing to run wild with our imaginations. Who are you really hurting in the long run if not yourself.
I used to think and believe I could speak and rattle English like the Queen of England in Senior High School back at Asanteman Secondary School in Kumasi. Until I had 50% in what was then the easiest English test paper. I was really embarrassed because I scored the lowest in my class.
My own downfall was I believed in my own stupid hype that I was so good with English, that I don't need to study much to pass.
Today, I study English, read and research English because I don't want to live in a fool's paradise. Don't be like me then. Accept and acknowledge in all honesty with what you are going through and you will be amazed the sort of effort you will put in to improve yourself.

Moreover, don't make the mistake of comparing your struggles you're going through with someone else's. You feel more and more miserable, bitter and resentful with yourself and your life. Your problem is not bigger than anybody's else's problem or pain.

Stop saying you don't know my problem, you can't understand what I'm going through or even worse, Kwame just bought a G wagon, why am I still taking "trotro" (public transport) to work when we all sat in the same class together as students. Listen, 6 o'clock strikes twice on the clock each day. Yesterday was Kwame's turn, tomorrow will be your turn.
The wheels of life go round and round. And be reminded that comparison is the thief of all joy in life.
Your life is much better if you choose to focus, acknowledge, improve and work on your own faults.

Cheers to you.

Kwame Sarpong
Freelance Writer
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