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A couple of weeks ago I told them how bad I felt and what I thought about those parents who in one way or another abandon their children, either for a while or definitely, for me this is one of the most regrettable things that the situation in my country has left us, although many do this since before this happened. Now, there is another side to this coin, and that is that there are also children who abandon their parents, and I think this is just as regrettable, because we owe it to our parents to be and to be able to be where we are, of course there are some parents who leave a lot to be desired, but let's talk about good parents who do not deserve to be abandoned (there are some who deserve worse, but that is another matter).
Yesterday my parents and my brother with his wife and my son, went to visit my father's best friend, this man is considered by everyone at home as another father, and even my son calls him grandfather, he lives in a rural village a couple of hours from where our house is, so we can not visit him as often as we want, although my father visits him weekly, because his health has declined a little for different reasons. We have always wondered where his children are, because since we have known him (a little more than 10 years ago), I have never seen them, he tells us that they left the country in search of a better opportunity, and that being in that area where there is no telephone or internet coverage, he did not know more about them, the sadness is evident in his eyes and in the tone of voice when he says it.
His wife, who is no longer there, since she died a couple of years ago, told us that he was an exemplary father, and then I wonder, if he was an exemplary father, why aren't his children? Why abandon him to his fate, when they know he is alone and has no family to accompany him or help him with his needs (they are not aware that we are there for him), why forget the person he looks after with his mother, that when they were little they would not lack anything, because they would get ahead and study so that in the future they could support their lives and their families?
His wife, who is no longer there, since she died a couple of years ago, told us that he was an exemplary father, and then I wonder, if he was an exemplary father, why aren't his children? Why abandon him to his fate, when they know he is alone and has no family to accompany him or help him with his needs (they are not aware that we are there for him), why forget the person he looks after with his mother, that when they were little they would not lack anything, because they would get ahead and study so that in the future they could support their lives and their families?
I thought about all this yesterday while I was alone at home preparing dinner for when my parents arrived, then other cases came to mind, my neighbor's daughter left for another country over a year ago, practically forgetting her mother and children and making her life no matter what, my aunt's son (I can't call someone a cousin), he left more than 3 years ago and if he calls once every 6 months he does a lot, he also forgot about his mother and his 2 daughters, he even has another family where he is, a friend of my brother left 4 years ago and his mother and father cry disconsolately every time someone asks him about him because he doesn't even call them on the phone (and he is in an excellent economic position)
Since I became a mother, and I am not talking about the moment my son was born, but since I found out that I had a little person growing inside me, the way I thought about my parents changed completely, I have never been able to be completely detached from them, even when I spent months away from home because of work, I used to call them on the phone between 2 and 3 times a day (if you don't tell them to eat, they forget because they are busy with their things), so now that I could see everything they had to do for me from the moment of my conception, I could not help but feel grateful to them and love them even more than I already did, and thank God I know that like me, many people think that way.
Today I write these words, from the sadness I feel every day seeing more abandoned parents, and even seeing how people leave their parents behind to take care of their children, are these people heartless, without heart, feelings or blood in their veins? What kind of human being does not have a shred of guilt for doing this kind of evil? Would these people have liked to have something similar done to them? How can they justify this kind of act?
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Since I became a mother, and I am not talking about the moment my son was born, but since I found out that I had a little person growing inside me, the way I thought about my parents changed completely, I have never been able to be completely detached from them, even when I spent months away from home because of work, I used to call them on the phone between 2 and 3 times a day (if you don't tell them to eat, they forget because they are busy with their things), so now that I could see everything they had to do for me from the moment of my conception, I could not help but feel grateful to them and love them even more than I already did, and thank God I know that like me, many people think that way.
Today I write these words, from the sadness I feel every day seeing more abandoned parents, and even seeing how people leave their parents behind to take care of their children, are these people heartless, without heart, feelings or blood in their veins? What kind of human being does not have a shred of guilt for doing this kind of evil? Would these people have liked to have something similar done to them? How can they justify this kind of act?
I understand that many have done so because of the economic situation, but I do not justify their actions. My country is increasingly filled with lonely and aimless old people, without hope, with children with broken dreams and a childhood ruined by the lack of awareness of people who have stopped being human, who have stopped thinking about their neighbours and have become filled with selfishness and meanness. It is these same people who go through life damaging the planet, because someone who does not love his parents hardly loves an animal or the earth he lives on.
When you see an old man with a sad look, don't hesitate to give him a hug, he may need it more than anything else in the world, let's not abandon them, thanks to them many of us exist today...!
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I am one of those children that abandoned my parents to my younger sister care I guess. The only thing I'm able to do for them is building them a house. I can't afford giving them monthly money for I myself barely have enough for my family.
I have the choice to libe with them but I can't forget all the words my father said to me. It hurt me a lot. He is not bad, he is a good father but I can't bare living in a house with him. I don't hate him but he is never there to jear my feelings when I'm small and it's hard to let him know what I felt nowadays. It felt awkward.
My mum is stroke and I don't want her to know how my life goes. I prefer to live away from them and just get to know about them from my sister.
I treat everyone the same, senior or young. As long as they don't put themselves in negative thoughts all the time, I can live with them but if they do... It's better if I'm away for I know myself as a rude person without intentions. I meant I will always question about things like...
Why do you always feel that you are a poor man, aren't you grateful that you at least have a home, not starving and at least have spare money from your pension? What I said to my father.
When my mom try to stab herself with a kitchen knife, I slap her and scold her about her action. I even punch my father for trying to stop me. What if my mom stab herself that day? What will happen?
Well, I'm that kind of person. If I think that my parents are thinking wrongly and doing stupid things in my opinion I will be angry and rude in my words to them. It hurt to love someone so much that they themselves are not grateful for a life they have.
They are the one that taught me about faith in God and miracles He do but they themselves didn't show it to me as they've said and teach me.
Well, my mother in law is a different stories. Let's just leave our story until here. 😅
Not to criticize your story, just want to share with you my point of view. To tell you the truth, I too sometimes wondering about why elderly, my patients have no visitors in the hospital. I would love to hear their stories from both side parents and children. 🥰
Thank you. I enjoys reading your story.
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There are always different stories, or at least that's what I think, because just as there are exceptional and good parents, there are parents that I wonder why they had children, I can say that there is a little bit of everything, I have seen parents that also ask me why they don't get struck by lightning? (yes, I usually have that kind of thought when I see injustice) their indolence with their children, their mistreatment and selfishness, take them to anyone who approaches them. It's just that I don't talk about those parents here.
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We better not talk about that kind of parents here 😅 Well, they are still parents. In my thoughts they still deserve something good in returns no matter what.
Thank you for spending your time reading a piece of my heart.
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Thanks to you for taking the time to read me and above all express your feelings, this is very valuable to me!
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Your welcome. I enjoys good writing.
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It's sad to see this happening in 2020 😿
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@porters here on behalf of @NaturalMedicine - It is sad how the family unit seems to have been split apart more and more! I was fortunate to have a husband who knew that it was our duty to care for our parents in their old age and was supportive of me when I had my father stay with us for awhile and I also went to stay with him for awhile when it was necessary. I am grateful I had that opportunity to serve my father and wish more could see that this is a natural cycle - that the parents take care of the child when they are dependent and when they become older it is an opportunity for the children to pay back some of that care they were given by taking care of the parents in their old age.
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As parents when we bring a child into the world we feel the responsibility and duty to care for and guide our little ones until they are independent, that's what our parents did for us, the least they deserve is that in their adulthood when they become dependent again, they can count on us for whatever is necessary, I think that is the least we should do as children, Thank you for your appreciation and support!!@porters and @naturalmedicine
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Such a beautiful story of heartfelt about parents. You are right that one should honor their parents. They wouldn't be here if not for them. But just as there are excellent parents, there are not so good examples. Each one deserves their place.
Apologies I'm so late getting to engaging with you on your post.
Have a great week ahead.
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There is never a late arrival, things are always as they should be, even if they seem unfair at times. Thank you for coming, and you are right, not all parents are good, there are many cases that leave much to be desired!
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thought provoking post.
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It baffles the mind how some people can be like this and desert their parents or how parents desert their children, but they are out there. They must not know empathy at all.
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Every day I see more people without empathy, and we see them reflected in how children treat their parents and vice versa, and the biggest case of lack of empathy is how the human being is destroying the planet by not thinking about the future of their own children.
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No Abandonment! I agree.. My parents and I are pretty close and I will be there for them when ever they need me. My siblings would do the same. I don't understand these people, but then again.. life is weird like that.
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I don't understand them either, although I know that there are cases of parents who are not the best, and as my mother says we can always be better and do things
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Very True. I can rest at night knowing I do my best for everyone. Your an AWESOME Daughter :-) and so sweet for bring this topic into more light.
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Life is never easy some make the decision to move away to search for something better, some walk away bitter, each has walked a different path it is never easy to find the truth behind each story.
Good to highlight how some are abandoned though.
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Life is not easy and many times it is not fair either, it is one of the few things I can assure you, besides that everyone does what they think is best, even if many times it is not the best!
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Many of our families are sitting with their children overseas, people do what is best, more often than not the parents do understand. It is sad though when parents are abandoned in old age homes and families just don't care to visit. Always a flip of a coin, each has a different story or reason.
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That's right, everyone has a different story, and there are even people who deserve abandonment and more!
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This is so sad @fmbs25, so many broken hearts for both young and old. You are such a good mother and daughter :) Your parents are so blesssed to have you!
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I hope so, even though I don't consider myself a good daughter or a good mother, I always try to give my best, but there are moments that make you run away hahaha, thanks for your beautiful comment
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I can say that you definitely live in a really beautiful place!
I really think that what you're referring to in your post is a feeling of respect, and respect for one's parents. George Carlin once said that respect is earned, not granted just for being a parent, and that is something I do agree with. However, earning the respect of your children should be a really simple thing to do: you raise your children, treat them with respect, teach them, guide them, punish them with consequence when necessary, but mostly instill in them a sense of self-worth and pride. It can be difficult! Being a good parent is not easy.
Of course, every situation is different and we're all unique beings. That's what makes living fun.
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I totally agree with you, respect is earned, and that applies to everything, I think, being a good father is something extremely difficult, and they are the ones I feel sorry for when these things happen to them!
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Very true words, it's sad to see children who don't appreciate their parents, even to a much smaller and less extreme case that you have outlined here. I know many instances of well to do children who live in the same country as their parents and only contact them occasionally. Hard for me to understand since my mother and I are so close.
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Well I think that kind of case is even worse, as I said before, being a good parent is difficult but not impossible, and often we see people who have everything to be good parents and choose not to be, for selfishness or lack of conscience I guess, is really sad.
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For some reason, I'm glad I live in an environment that parents stay on with the children or at least the children stays closely.
My parents stay on their own after my siblings and I got married. But we still live nearby. Actually my kids goes over to my parents house after school everyday and have dinner before my husband picks them up and goes home.
In a way, it gives them some company and someone to fuss over.
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I remember that my grandmother took care of me until I was 5 years old, and my mother stopped working to stay home with us, however we never stopped visiting her, we were with her until her last breath, I stayed with that example that my father gave us, he always told us, she gave me life and I owe her everything I am.
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We are told to ‘Honor your mother and father’ but sometimes people get swamped in there own life and neglect them.
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Many times the daily chores involve us and do not leave us time for many things, but we can always get a couple of hours a week at least to give to those beings who gave us life!
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Hi @fmbs25,
What you say is very sad, but unfortunately it has a lot of reality.
For believers in the God of Abraham, Issac and Israel, it is clear that it is a transgression to the fifth commandment:
And everyone who transgresses the law is susceptible to punishment or correction. In that sense, it is imperative to repent and correct wrong behavior.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
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And I totally agree that such a person should be punished!
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The commandment is clear. More than just punishment, which deserves it, I think, that the call is to repent and amend the error as long as possible. What is the use of regretting the word without any action. It is foolish to cry then over the grave.
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This is heartbreaking. I know many elderly people who are living similar situations. In some cases, their children had not even left the country, they simply stopped caring.
Thanks for sharing this dramatic situation so compellingly.
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I also know of similar cases, even people who live a couple of houses away from their parents completely neglect them, it's really quite sad!
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It is a very opportune reflection, above all because more and more detachment is observed in families with respect to older adults; it seems that the younger ones feel that their lives are going away if they do not "fly" away from the nest, without realizing that they are abandoning the most precious things: loved ones, loves, family experiences.
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After a while, it becomes difficult to reconnect. One has to start by apologizing, to admit failures. I think lots of folks can not do that. The thing is, the joy that comes from making amends erases any embarrassment. I feel the same pain as you for abandoned older people. How horrible.
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Forgiveness and repentance are often the most difficult things in life, but they leave us with an enormous peace, which is well worth trying. I only pray to God for the people who are in this hard situation, because I would never want to be in it!
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I love your post @fmbs25. We all go through changes, so until we can walk in others shoes (those who left for instance) we shouldn't judge them to harshly.
I know I've done plenty in my life that I am not proud of, much of it involved how I took advantage of my Mother (of THAT I am purely ashamed)
But we are all works in progress.
I love your photos too, they are excellent
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Our day to day is an opportunity to always improve, and to correct the mistakes made! Thank you for your comments, dear!
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I agree my friend, we are all, whether we know or accept it or not, works in progress.
I like to use the analogy;
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Amazing that you should post this topic my friend as I preached at an old age home this morning. "Dumped" is the old people's word for it.
Children in other countries and they never hear from them. Some of them have to eke out living with only a small old age grant from government and a few told me that they cannot wait to die, as there is nothing left for them in this world.
They have never seen their grandchildren and it is really a very bad situation.
But we are hoping to do something for them and let's hope that it will work.
Blessings!
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The situation of some old people in my country is, to say the least, deplorable. I cannot conceive the idea of a relative of mine at that age who should be having the best quality of life, in this situation, is something very sad, and I believe that they should not go through this! Thank you for your comment my dear friend!
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It is indeed the season where quality care is of utmost importance my friend. Where children should show their appreciation for all that their parents have done for them in their youth.
But sadly many don't see things this way, as they think that their parents become obstacles in their lives. So they simply dump their parents in an old age home and they flee to countries far away.
We see the tears and the loneliness and it is indeed heartbreaking. Especially if you see the photos of their grand children next to their beds that they have never seen or met.
Very sad stories and to think that they will die alone.
Blessings!
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I agree 100%.
Sadly, it's growing more common to abandon one's parents as one is "grown and independant" when one moves out...
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It's unfortunate but that's how it is!
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It is sad but unfortunately because of the situation of the country and the loss of feelings, it is something that has increased and many do so normally. I would never leave my mother who is the one I have left, abandoned to her fate. Thank you for bringing this reflection so important and more valid than ever in these times. A hug for you! @fmbs25
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Certainly what has me tied to this country are my parents, just entering the 60's and they have tried so hard to give me everything, that they deserve that I do the same for them!
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That is a sad situation, @fmbs25. Our parents should be loved and respected for bringing us into this world and taking care of us. That is really truly sad when kids leave their parents and don’t stay in touch, and of course the reverse is true too — parents should never abandon their children. What hope is there that those kids will grow up well and be kinder and more living with their own children when they have t experienced close and caring family relationships?
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I think this is a fundamental part of the loss of values and social decomposition that can be experienced in my country mainly!
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Yes it is a sad world where people seem to have little compassion, even for their parents. What a shame...
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A total shame!
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