I have written many articles on how to get along with my boss, and the feedback I can receive is:
"The article is very well written, but none of the bosses I met are good, what should I do?"
Let us continue to talk about this topic today.
Why do you never meet a good boss?
##First of all, make it clear that it does not mean he/she is a good boss if he/she is kind to you at work and never force you to work overtime and help you when your are in trouble.
If we follow this standard to find it, most of us will never meet it in our lifetime.
A good boss is not viewed from the perspective of the boss, but from the perspective of your own needs. A real good boss is not the person who treats you good at every aspect, but only treats you good at those aspests which are more suitable for you.
For example, if you are a careless, frizzy person, a good boss at this time is someone who can spot your shortcomings and help you correct them.
Another example is that you are a logically confused and confused person. It takes a long time to write a project plan every time, and I don't know where to start. At this time, a good boss is someone who can help you sort out your ideas and teach you how to write a plan.
For another example, if you feel that you have made a lot of contributions to the company, a good boss is someone who can see and recognize your contribution and is willing to give you a corresponding return.
In short, what you need at this stage, and your boss happens to be able and willing to give you these things, then he is a good boss.
Then the important thing is the following:
Apart from that, it is normal for your boss to have any other shortcomings.
The boss who is careful to help you correct your mistakes may be grumpy in private and yell at you at every turn;
A boss who is willing to teach you how to write a plan may not want to teach it after teaching it once, and you will be left behind if you make a mistake next time;
A boss who can fight for your benefits may help you get a promotion and raise your salary and double your KPI for next year the next day, and tell you that you will be eliminated at the end...
This is the truth on earth.
Readers who are familiar with me should know that I have written about my first boss when I first worked. She graduated from a prestigious school, she is brilliant, logical, and persuasive. All these look beautiful, don’t they?
But at the same time, she is also the most tempered boss I have ever met in my career.
At that time, I was scolded by her once a week, and I was often degraded to nothing. And she always scolded me for writing shit in front of all my colleagues in the office.
But I moved the thought of resigning several times and finally resisted.
why?
Because I know that there are many things I haven't learned from her. If I give up halfway and leave, all the scolding I have suffered before will be for nothing.
So at that time, I gritted my teeth and persisted while trying to learn her method of analyzing problems and writing plans. I quit my job until I could write plans independently and could make proposals with clients.
But this does not prevent me from considering her as the person who has the greatest impact on my career.
Because I figured out that the boss is also a human being, and being a human has advantages and disadvantages. What you need to pay attention to is not how much his strengths are, but whether his strengths are suitable for you, and whether you can bear his weaknesses.
However, as long as there are things in he/she that you have not learned, and things that you want to stay in this industry for a long time in the future, he/she is still a good boss worth learning.
Never equate a good boss with a virgin. Land a little bit and match your needs based on your actual situation. You have to endure everything else.
This is my first suggestion.
The second point is to see whether a boss is good, not how he treats you, but how he treats all other subordinates.
In other words, if he treats you badly, is it against you and only bad for you alone? If this is the case, find the reason in yourself first.
My experience is that when your boss starts to target you, it must be the result of many things you did wrong before, but you haven't realized it yet.
For example, make the same mistakes over and over again, always report to a higher level, or cause heavy losses to the company and the team. This kind of long-standing prejudice, especially the prejudice from the immediate boss, is difficult to reverse once it forms.
Why does the boss hate these things?
Because this will cause his/her performance to be dragged down, authority to be questioned, and status to be threatened.
In other words, this is the culprit of every boss, you must not touch it.
In addition, the boss is unlikely to target a certain subordinate. The reason is very simple. He recruited people in the first place, so they wouldn't slap themselves in the face if they didn't have a major problem, and put a hat of "not to see people" on themselves.
On the other hand, if the boss is not against you, but is not very good to all the subordinates, then turn to the boss to find the reason.
The same is a personal experience, not all. This situation is mostly because the boss’s style and personality are not in line with everyone. the chemistry is wrong.
For example, I have seen all KPI-only bosses who only look at the performance numbers and don’t look at other things, which is terribly wolfish. From a company perspective, this is true, but from a human management perspective, many people can’t stand it.
But there is no question of whether this kind of boss is good or not, it is still a question of suitability for you.
If you happen to be a very hardworking and motivated employee, it is easy to get results when you follow this kind of boss, and there will be no less rewards after doing a good job.
But if you pursue the quality of life, don't want to live a life at two o'clock every day, and don't want to be asked about work at the weekend, then this kind of boss is a disaster for you.
Although articles scolding bosses are easily sought after, I still have to say that not every boss is a bastard, and not every boss is an angel.
Human nature is a very complicated thing, same thing to one perpos is the honey and to the other is the arsenic. Don't think about the problem in black and white. The key is that you must first understand yourself.
What are you good at and what is lacking? What kind of abilities should we focus on in the future? What skills do you want to get involved in? Does it need a long-term platform or a short-term springboard?
The above questions are an analysis of the self. Only by first understanding your own needs can you find a corresponding solution with a purpose.
Like the longest company I have stayed in, I have been there for 4 years. But before I went, all my friends told me that this company was not good, the customers were difficult, the boss was difficult to deal with, and even the headhunters persuaded me to think twice.
But after I went, there were indeed problems, but they were not as unbearable as outsiders said.
Customers are difficult to deal with, but they are reasonable. The boss is difficult to deal with, but they also believe in professionalism. Here I have dabbled in industries that I have never touched before. Many jobs have jumped out of the level of subsidiaries and have risen to the cooperation of group brother companies. I have also directly and indirectly met more senior executives. This is growth.
Again, there is no good or bad, only suitable or not. What others say is for reference, and the truth is only known after trying it out.
The last suggestion, always try to empathize.
Even if you are a subordinate now, this does not prevent you from thinking about problems from the perspective of your boss. Executives and management look at the same issue, and often different things happen.
For example, if you are the person in charge of a department project, you cannot get the approval if you apply for the company's resource support with your boss over and over again, even if your department's contribution is firmly in the forefront of the company every year.
Naturally, you will definitely think the boss is stupid. Isn’t it a fool for the boss to turn a blind eye to such an important project and such a potential customer?
But the actual situation is that the boss not only looks at the business plate of your department, he also has 5 other business lines to look at. Last year, we encountered the epidemic, which caused the revenue of the other four business lines to shrink sharply, leaving you and another department to be pretty good.
What you think is that even in such a bad economic environment, I can still make money for the company, but you don't support me.
But what your boss thinks is that the company currently has limited resources. If you cut down other business lines to support your department, although the company's cash flow can develop healthily in the short term, those businesses that have been cut off will make a comeback after the epidemic. It will be difficult to catch up at that time.
So he made a decision to move part of your department’s income to support people in other departments. The good name is that the overall situation is the most important thing to overcome the difficulties.
Of course, you were dumbfounded when you knew it, thinking that not only did you not support me, but you also took the pie from me to support others. What do you mean?
Thus contradictions arise.
But who is right or wrong in this matter? In fact, there is no absolutely correct answer, it all depends on the current situation. Maybe you are right, maybe your boss is right, maybe everyone is wrong.
I gave this example to illustrate that for the same thing, the positions of subordinates and bosses are different, and the starting point of thinking is different.
You are the person in charge of the department. Of course, everything is based on the interests of your department and the present. This is understandable;
The boss is in charge of all the company's business and looks at the overall development of the future, so it is impossible to be partial to certain people, otherwise how to lead the team in the future. This is also true.
The key point of the contradiction is not who is good and who is not, but that everyone has different ideas. As for the idea, it is impossible to tell right or wrong right now, and more often it can only be verified by time.
So when you think that the boss is not good or the boss is stupid, is it because his brain is broken, or because of their different perspectives and ideas? This is actually a question worth thinking about.
If it is a matter of philosophy, what you can do is not to scold the boss for being stupid, but to try to understand his philosophy and explain the reasons and intentions for him to think so.
Understanding does not mean agreeing.
You can understand it and still disagree. But what I object to is that I didn't even understand it, and started to resist with a few superficial words. Such thinking is immature.
Let’s take the previous example again. When you understand the boss’s ideas and your future judgment is also after the epidemic, the company’s other business lines will recover. Then at this time, sacrifice a small part of your own interests in exchange for the company’s future. Good development is actually a wiser approach.
It's just that you need to make three chapters with your boss before this. Today you sacrifice the ego to complete the company's greater ego. If everything goes as everyone wants in the future, then you deserve a greater return.
And the boss agreed, and later fulfilled his promise as promised, then he is a good boss. Not only have the overall situation, but also keep the promise.
This is actually a story of my friend, he is the person in charge of the department project.
He had a battle with his boss in the middle of last year. At that time, he chose to believe the boss's judgment. Now the development of the company has also verified this.
I write so much because I want to say that there are many conflicts and differences in the workplace because of different ideas, but this does not have to rise to the level of labeling the other party.
It is normal for a gentleman to be harmonious but different. Don't feel that the opponent is either good or bad because of differences in ideas. Try to think more empathy and understand the reason and logic behind the other party's judgment. It can bring value and growth more than venting emotions.
Especially when the boss makes a judgment, the starting point is very different from that of his subordinates. When you understand his thinking mode and become familiar with his ideas and views, this is actually to prepare yourself for the future boss.
As for whether he is a good boss, it is not too late to ask yourself when you sit in his position one day.
The above is today's content. In conclusion, how to meet a good boss? 3 tips:
- Rationalize the standards of a good boss;
- Find a boss that suits you, not a boss who is good to everyone;
- Try more empathy.
It’s not difficult to meet a good boss, but how do you understand the word “good”.
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