Marriage is an institution form between a man and a woman who are ready to form an everlasting bond. It is a long life commitment to love, care, support and protect each other. It goes behold becoming a legal sexual partners or having children and forming a family.
It is an institution suppose to bring peace and harmony between the two parties involved which will indirectly manifest to the general world at large. Majority of the problems facing the world right now like war, insecurities, corruption can all be avoided if we all have a good home. Bad marriage has produces a lot of children that has become a threat to the world because of bad upbringing and parental care.
They have configure their mind that love is a mirage and the most important thing is to survive no matter what it will takes. When a lecture is been given about world peace and need to live in love wt each other they ignore it because they have not felt it before.
The culture, traditional and society we find ourselves in has a great role to play in the types of marriage we will have either arrange or love marriage and also our mentality towards marriage, maybe it is destiny or not.
I don't really believe in destiny marriage because it does not garanty a happy home and even when you claim both of you are destiny to be together and your character and altitude does not match the marriage will still not work it takes two to tango even if both of you are not destiny to be together and your altitude, character and behavior match and both are ready to follow the principle of a happy family the marriage will work.
The issue of destiny marriage has lead to a lot of arrange marriage in which either our parent, relative or friends arrange someone for us to marriage in which we have little or no say in it. In Nigeria arrange marriage is common among the northern part which has lead to early marriage and children dropping out of school because of the need to become wife which has lead to emotional trauma of not been able what one want to achieve and the pain of living permanently with someone you don't have feelings for for the rest of ones life.
Although not all arrange marriage turns out bad but I personally does not like and support it, there should be love before marriage will be now grown after marriage and not finding love after marriage.
Recently the rate of divorce between both love and arrange marriage is alarming and all effort should be made to stop it. Many factors contribute to why they may be mental distance and separation between a couple which goes behold love. Love along is not capable of keep a home alot of commitment and patience is need. Here are few reasons why couple separate.
- Arrange marriage
- One or both partners pretend or hide their character during courtship
- Difference in cultural background and beliefs.
- Lack of faithfulness
- Not wanting to change and accept corrections
- Non- chanlet attitude to the need and feelings of the other partners.
- Influence of friends and family relatives
- Poverty and lack of contentment.
Marriage is good and lovely when you met that person that knows you are not perfect but want to complete your imperfectness and loves you for who you are.