Educating children by example is not an easy task, although it may seem at first glance.
Today we are going to talk about how to educate children by example. We may have heard of this countless times and it is something with which we may be very familiar. In fact, we may think that it is easy to do. However, we know that this is not always easy to put into practice and that it can be difficult to educate children by example.
Educating children by example is a task that we have to carry out day after day, moment by moment. It is useless to do this intermittently, as this can cause confusion for the little ones.
Children will learn through observational learning, so we cannot allow them to hesitate to act due to some of our bad actions. If we want them to have good works, they need to see how we do it ourselves.
Children can learn good behavior as well as learn bad behavior. Behavior is not something that magically arises nor is it something inherited. The fact that a child behaves well is not even the result of luck. Just as they learn certain behaviors, they can also learn to modify them.
And the same goes for adults: behavior is also learned. The ability to be a good human being does not appear suddenly. That is why we can also learn to be better people so that we can continue to set an example for children.
"The example is stronger than the rules".
Nikolái Gógol
BE THE CHILDREN´S MIRROR
Children learn by imitation . The potential of a child to observe and imitate models is very high. They learn to speak by copying models and they learn a language simply by listening, observing and imitating. Children learn attitudes, values, personal preferences and customs, all thanks to this skill.
As children copy the behavior of those around them, we have a certain influence on children's learning. . What we say or do in front of them will influence, in some way, their way of thinking and behaving, since we are acting as a model.
Children copy practically everything they see from adults. They learn most of their behavior patterns from us. Therefore, we must be good examples. On the other hand, they also learn from the environment in which they develop.
Therefore, we must provide children with experiences that teach values and promote responsibility, as their behavior will be a reflection of the model they are observing.
How and what happens when children are taught by example?
If we want a child's behavior to change, we need to examine our own behavior, although this is not an easy experience. The change in our behavior will also affect the change in children's behavior. The way we behave with children affects the way they behave with us and with other people.
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A good idea is to make a list of the things that we would like children to do and start by applying them to ourselves. It is always a good time to improve the way we behave.
Children believe what we tell them. They behave the way we want them to behave. So if we tell a child that he is very scandalous, he will interpret this as a characteristic of his personality and will always be scandalous. However, if we say that he knows how to play in silence, he will believe and try to play in silence.
Pay attention to what you do and say. Not only in front of the child, but at all times. If we get used to certain behavior, it will be easier to do it when the children are present.
Show support as children need it. The support we provide to a child will undoubtedly help increase his motivation. As this will help you get out of certain difficult situations, face your fears and deal with stress. Also, we will contact them so that they can satisfactorily solve the problems.
We must recommend specific behaviors. In this way, we will show what the correct decision was. We will highlight the strengths and, therefore, the child will trust himself more because he will feel capable of making good decisions.
