Conflict in relationship is inevitable. Just like it's impossible for the teeth and tongue not to quarrel. At times, conflict helps to understand each other better in the relationship. Meanwhile, some minor conflicts take the relationship to a halt. This is simply because, the two partners could not or does not know how to settle the conflict.
One simple way of settling conflict is to take responsibility for one's action. There are some instances where you know truly that you're at fault. In this case, it takes a humble person to admit, confess and apologize. Now, you see that it's highly important for one to be humble. Humility makes you a responsible partner. If you're a proud person, it's high time you dropped your ego. Frankly speaking, it will take you no where. At least, for the sake of love, BE HUMBLE!
In a case where you don't know if you're at fault or not, what do you do?
You see, not all conflicts are caused either by a partner or the other. A conflict may arise due to difference in ideology or unexpected circumstance. In this aspect, it's nobody's fault. It's just a circumstance. (Which is part of life experience.) You don't keep quiet in this situation waiting for who will apologize. Be matured enough to speak up and address the issue.
No! It does not mean you're vulnerable or desperate to have the partner. It simply means you're MATURED!
Moreover, addressing the issue is not enough. The way you handle it matters. When a conflict is being addressed, some people does not give listening ears, they just want to speak and express their minds. Yes, I understand it's important you express your mind, but that's not enough. Calm down fess. Listen to your partner.
And for those who try to listen, some listen for listening sake. This is what I mean, as the partner is speaking, they're fuming within, saying "lemme just allow you finish what you're saying, I have lots to say." So, as the words is entering their right ears it is coming out from the left ear. They're not digesting, neither do they understand what the partner is saying. That's why the case will remain the same or one partner feel hurt.
My dear, do not listen to explain or for listening sake, LISTEN to UNDERSTAND. (Read this repeatedly until you digest it properly.)
See things from the person's point of view. Look beyond your perspective. Don't be biased in reaching a conclusion. Understand how the other partner feels about it.
Have you ever been in a situation whereby, though you have lots to say but, by the time the other partner is done speaking, you became speechless? (Those who have experienced that will understand better.)
Why do you think they become speechless?
It's because after listening, they understand the partner's plight. And realized that there are lapses. Though they thought they were and everything was right, now they see more.
Did you get it?
May God give you understanding.
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