Book "How to Win Friends and Influence People" | Review And Summary | 20% beneficiary to @steemit-pak | by @faizan2sheikh

Assalamualaikum, I hope you all are doing well, it is my first post here. I am trying to spend some time reading books to gain wisdom through them. Today I want to share the review and summary of the book "How to win friends and influence people" which is written by "Dale Carnegie".

Introduction

This book is one of the classics in social matters, it teaches great principles and tips that can be helpful for you if you are willing to improve your social skills and to deal with situations in a smooth manner leading to positive outcomes.
The author claimed that you will be able to achieve the following goals by reading this book.

• Get out of a mental rut, think new thoughts, and discover new ambitions.
• Make friends quickly and influence and others
• Avoid arguments and have smooth human contact.

Fundamental techniques in handling people

Don't criticize, condemn and complain

Avoid these things as much as possible because everyone thinks that they are right, even if you can convince someone to your point of view, you won't get their goodwill.

Give honest and sincere appreciation

Try to praise every smallest aspect of effort that someone does for you.

Be hearty in approbation and lavish in your praise

Arouse in the other person an eager want

If you want someone to accept your idea make them think it's their idea and they want to do it, that way you can win their goodwill too.

Six ways to make people like you

Become genuinely interested in other people

Try to be as genuine as possible, this way you can easily make good friends and can be happy yourself.

Smile and try to call people by name

Try to meet everyone with a smiling face, this uplifts the whole environment. Call others especially your equals with their name, it is the sweetest word to hear for them.

Be a good listener and make others feel important

The key to a good conversation is to keep listening to them when they are telling something and genuinely show interest. Don't cut and start speaking when someone is speaking it is one of the rudest habits.

Win people to your way of thinking

Avoid arguing

The author said that the only way to win an argument is to avoid it. We must try not to get into useless arguments as much as possible.

Show respect and be friendly

You should try to respect the other person's opinions when having a conversation and be friendly.

Admit your mistakes

The very common mistake that people do is that they don't admit their mistakes and try to justify their ideas even if they are wrong. This thing can infuriate your partner and can lead to an argument.

Indirectly point to people's mistakes

If you want to correct people for their benefit, then instead of saying to them "You are wrong!", you should be gently guiding them so they listen to your idea and also try to talk about your own mistakes first before pointing to theirs.

Ask questions instead of giving orders

If you are a boss then instead of ordering your employees to do a certain work you should try to ask them if they are free to do this or can they do this work by this time, in this way you not only get more work done but also create a very friendly image of yours.

Conclusion

These principles helped me a lot to make my daily interactions better and I hope they will also benefit you when you apply them to your social interactions.
According to author

It is naive to believe you will always get a favorable reaction from the other persons when you use these approaches, but the experience of most people shows that you are more likely to change attitudes this way than by not using these principles - and if you increase your success by even a mere 10 percent, you have become 10 percent more effective as a leader than you were before - and that is your benefit.

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