@NGOENYI CONTEST SERIES #1: A CHILD|| CHILD BEARING, CAN IT BE BY CHOICE OR BY LOT OR BOTH? 20 STEEM UP FOR GRAB by @alexanderpeace.

Greetings beautiful people of STEEMKIDS Community. I trust you are great. Am glad to participate in another beautiful and compelling contest in our beautiful Community. I want to thank @ngoenyi for this opportunity. We are looking at the subject of child or child bearing whether it's by choice or by lot or both.

The subject at hand is a very dicey one and one should look at it from a broad stand point. From a general perspective, I'd like to say that child or child bearing generally speaking is both by chance and by lot. For some persons it comes should come as choice example are couples while for others it comes by lot.
Let's look at the definition of choice and Lot.
Choice is an option, a decision, an opportunity to choose or select something.
Lot is that which happens without human design or fore thought or a part or fate that falls to one as it were by chance or without his planning.

According to design and all things been equal, child bearing should be by choice but we know that in the world we find ourselves, all things are never equal and somethings happen outside design and plans. Am talking from a broader perspective. There are some persons who gave birth to a child without planning for it. Example people who were raped, ladies who in trying to taste the waters outside wedlock end up with a child they didn't plan for and other similar cases which we see everyday.
In this situation,we see child bearing by lot, but I believe this contest is pointing towards the angle of couples, so let's look at child bearing from that angle.

Is child bearing a choice that couples make or is it by lot or both? Why?

I strongly believe that child bearing for couples should be by choice. The couple should decide how many children they should have and raise and they begin to work towards it. Child bearing for couples shouldn't be a thing of lot. No one decides to build a house without first counting the cost. They should come to any agreement on the number of children they want and work towards it considering basic factors and especially the economic situation of things around them. If they choose to bring a child into the world, they should also take responsibility for them. Child bearing and raising is a great responsibility that couples shouldn't just dabble into or allow fate to decide for them. It's requires adequate planning. In our today's society, we see some couples out of not planning give birth by lot but it ought not to be so for couples. If the couple wants to leave child birth to lot, that means they will continue giving birth as long as the woman's ovaries are producing eggs. That will definitely put them into untold pains and stress especially for the woman hence there's need for boundaries and planning, so it can't be left to lot.

when should this question be considered? Before or after marriage?

It can be considered both before and after marriage even though I feel it should be considered more before marriage. Two cannot work together unless they agree. This subject can be a thing of discord between a man and woman. If a woman wants just two kids and the man wants eight, it's gonna cause a big issue. So they need to discuss and agree on what they want before proceeding with their plans. If in a situation they didn't discuss it before marriage, they can still do so after marriage. The most important thing is that they reach a a consensus as to what they want and work towards it.

What is your advice to couples who intend to make the decision to bear a child or children?

My advice to them is that they should consider their economic situation before deciding on the number of children to give birth to. There are rampart cases of couples giving birth to more than they can raise and that had led to so many children not having the right family morals and upbringing they deserve, hence they grow up to become nuisances to the society. No one builds a tower without sitting and counting the cost. So couples should sit and count the cost of child bearing before giving birth.

In conclusion, child birth is a very important issue that should not be left to fate or lot. Couples should sit and make plans and good choices towards child bearing.

Thank you for going through my blog. Your suggestions and comments are welcomed.
I want to invite @giftye, @lewas-write and @amazingcyndy to participate in this contest.