Stop Helicopter Parenting

In my opinion, parents should not follow their ego when educating their children, including when choosing a school for their children. Parents should follow what their children want, we direct them.

Next is the issue of prestige. There are parents who prioritize prestige over their children's dreams, over their children's interests and talents. Pretentiousness with other children's parents, for example "Oh, go to that school, oh okay, I can do it too".

Even though it's not certain that the child is interested, and has talents and abilities there.

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Then, many parents are not sincere with their children's aspirations. For example, parents want their children to be pilots, because they're cool, or become doctors. Even though their children want to be writers. Not sincere, in the end there is no moral support, material support, let alone prayers, surely the child will not be successful in life, because they don't get their parents' blessing.

Also, many parents are not aware that children are only entrusted by God, not their property as in Khalil Gibran's poem, so in my opinion the most important thing is to apologize, not to act like you know it all, or to get ahead of your parents, who are all over the world. In my opinion, in educating children, there are 4Ms that parents must do

Getting to know the child: Many parents do not know their child, try to get to know their child first, meet them every day, it doesn't mean you know them.

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The second is to know their talents.

The third is the parents' job to explore their potential.

And the last is to facilitate their education.

If for example a child is chosen until they go to schools, they will not be able to be independent forever, they will continue to be spoon-fed by their parents. I have examples of these, from children who know what they will do with their lives, and what's even more amazing is that they are successful, the first is Bill Gates, he dropped out of Harvard because he knew he didn't go to school here, he said, it's better to start his own company, finally he made Microsoft, and became the richest person in the world. If his parents are adamant, what will he be in the future?

The second, Mark Zuckerberg, the founder of Facebook, he dropped out of Harvard "I know what I'm going to do with my life" he said, he made Facebook, he's also a rich person, he, until now, he's successful with the decisions he made, he's great, we can emulate his spirit, amazing huh?

Next, Steve Jobs, he also didn't finish school (1955-2011), he's deceased, he's also a rich man who was successful with the bold decisions he made, and had strong principles, then he made Apple, and now Apple, one of the leading technology companies in the world, and until today his products are still trending and are loved by many young people, cool

Well, finally because I observe the world of children and the future of Indonesian children, I had a chat with a French education expert who has lived in Paris, Van Java (Bandung) for a long time, his name is Djajang Michelle Duaphetang. We often chat on Whatsapp. He said about children's education like this in French, I, translated into Indonesian "If children do not learn the way we teach, it is better for us to teach the way they learn" Follow their way, what they like, we just facilitate that, parents should be like that.

Okay, next about careers. In my opinion, this is a continuation of education, usually children after completing their education, they will try to have a career, there are parents who have been monitoring their children from a young age, until their career, they are continuously directed, if I say it's called Helicopter Parenting, the child is continuously monitored, how to direct them, for example, turn left, don't go there, take that, be careful.

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The main thing is to keep driving

The child wants this, the parents want that, if for example there are still parents who act like this, don't continue it anymore, it's no longer the era. Stop helicopter parenting like that, because the first will weaken the child, the child will find it difficult to solve problems, have low self-esteem, be afraid of failure, and even become depressed. Because so far they have never been given the trust to solve problems, they are continuously monitored

Because the father wants to be successful, the mother wants to succeed. In fact, failure is a way of learning.

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The second is that children do not have the ability to overcome problems, because of dependency. Little by little mom...little by little dad, help.

The third is, we will not help them become themselves. And finally, why should helicopter parenting be stopped, because we as parents will not live forever

When we are no longer around, who will they ask for help? They still need help, while their parents are gone (deceased), it's dangerous, right? Try if we let them go, we monitor them, if they are misguided, then we help them learn on their own, they will become children who survive in their lives. Well, that's about it.

That's all my discussion today about how to educate children correctly and wisely. Hopefully it is useful, see you later.

Greetings always compact.

By @midiagam