Childbearing is it by choice or by a lot or both contest by@vickydear

Good evening my beautiful steemkids lovers, hopefully all of us are doing very good in our daily family life and our kids are happy with us. I am very excited to participate in this interesting contest and I so much appreciate the admin and moderators of this wonderful community steemkids in steemit. Then I am very grateful to@ngoenyi who spend her precious time to initiate this amazing contest.

It is true that God purpose for humans was for them to be fruitful, become many and filled the earth, also Gods words the Bible said that children's are inheritance from God and that the fruit of the womb are a reward from God so childbearing is something of value given in return of a act. In fact childbearing is the joy of the parenthood and it is a precious reward from God.

Is childbearing a choice that couple makes or is it by lot or both,why?

My first couple interviewer(@goodybest)

I will say that childbearing is by choice, because I have interview with couples and ask them their opinion on this same question and thier answer is the same, that childbearing is by choice, the couple might decided to have children depending on the number of children that they want and at the same time they might decided not to have all of these based on their choice.

My second couple interviewer(@graceyakan)

Couple are partners in childbearing.

Why I say that childbearing is a choice

Sometimes community and in-law expect a woman to give birth to as many children as possible, but rightfully how many children a married couple have should be their personal decision because today childbearing and rearing of children is a difficult task nevertheless some have done it successfully.

But what if they lack means to educate,feed and clothes many children. Truly some parents who cannot support all their children entrust their relatives with the responsibility to raise some of their children and this practice is not desirable and does not relieved the parents of their requirements towards their children.
Responsible couples try to plan the number of their children so that they will and can provide for them because the scene of the world is changing and we are facing economic hardship now adays.

When should this questions be considered is it before or after marriage

Honest communication is needed in order to keep courtship honorable, as the courtship progress towards marriage some important matter needs to be openly discussed. So childbearing is one of the important matter that must be discussed before marriage. Couple to be should know each other options by asking
Do you want to have children?
If the answer is yes they should agree on the size or number of children that they will be able to care for.

My advice to couple who intended to make the decision to bear a child or children

I will use this simple illustration to explain my decision and advice to couple who want to have a child or children. Constructing a house needs careful requirements practices, before a foundation is laid,land must first of all be purchased also drawnd up a plan, but before doing all this l must sit down and calculate the expense to see if I have enough to complete it.
What is true of building a house is similar and apply to marriage and childbearing. It is not a matter of bearing a child or children but also to stop and consider the cost of taking care of them.

So I will advice them to have the number of children that they will be able to care and provide for them. I will tell them that what was viewed as normal or tradition some 50-60 years ago is not acceptable today.

I am inviting @mirabelify, @rose-o, @rechie23 to join in the contest.

Cc
@ngoenyi
@bright-obias
@focusnow
@kiwiscanfly
@goodybest
@steemkidss