The Control of Anger - contest

Hello everybody, hello @steemdoctor1 and @steemithealth thank you for the contest and the topic.

What do you do when you are angry?

When I'm angry, it seems like nothing makes sense anymore. I become intolerant of anyone and the day is horrible.

Are you sharp in anger? Or are you able to control it?

Years ago, I thought I was a person who can control anger. But that wasn't true. I accumulated a lot of stress at work. While in the placework, I was always kind, always sociable, I avoided arguing and clashing. I thought I was doing well, to avoid dramas or look like a rude person. Yet I have found that anger does not go away. It dangerously builds up until it explodes.

The problem is, I vented my anger and disappointment outside work, at home, with my family, my mother, my partner, even my dog!

At the time I thought I controlled anger but that was not the case. I simply suppressed it, but sooner or later it exploded.

What are the main reasons that make you angry?

The things that make me angry the most are the things I can't control. Illnesses of loved ones, insurmountable obstacles that cannot be overcome. Now I learn to accept them.

It's incredible to think that years ago I used to get angry in traffic, or get angry if someone offended me. I actually discovered that those weren't the things that made me angry, it was simply my unexpressed anger in other more serious moments that then came out at the least appropriate moment and for insignificant things.

Give suggestions on how we can control our anger?

This is what I learnt and I try to do every day to control anger.

Understand the source of our anger

To control anger I believe we must learn to recognize what really makes us angry. If we get angry in traffic, that's not the reason. If we get angry because our dog peed in the house, that's not the reason. Small daily problems can be solved in another way without getting angry. If we get angry about the little things we're probably expressing discomfort related to stress and other much more important situations in our lives.

React to difficult situations calmly

When we get angry it's because we want to make others understand what our reasons are. In reality, if we overreact, everyone else will be focused on our reaction and not really listen to what we have to say. Here is that getting used to explaining things is good for us and helps others to understand, so sometimes it is possible to change the situation that generates our anger.

Don't give too much importance to rude strangers

Sometimes we get angry over a phrase or a word spoken by strangers, in the parking lot, at the supermarket, on public transport. No one likes to be offended, but I've learned to let it go and go my own way, ignoring provocation. Rude strangers are not part of our life, it's not worth it. Instead, I learned speak clearly to people who live with me, with my colleagues and my friends.

Be kind

If we walk around angry it will be difficult to have a good day. How should others react to our anger? If we make an effort to be nice to everyone, it usually works! Most people respond just as kindly!

Thank you for reading my post, have a nice day!