Steem4nigeria Accelerator Contest Week 51: I Learnt to Say NO.

"Hi Steemians! let's check this scene out."

Scene: At a cozy coffee shop, two dear friends, Sarah and Mike, pretty sitting across from each other, as well sipping their drinks.

Sarah: “Hi! You know, Mike, I really just can’t say ‘no’ to certainly people. I do always feel so guilty.”

Mike: “Like Really? I don’t really struggle with that at all or feel pissed. If anything doesn’t really work for me, I'll just say no!”

Sarah: “My dear friend, I really wish maybe one day I could definitely be like you. But It’s so hard for me!”

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As we all know, Saying “no” can somehow feel like something so impossible or a task for many of us in life. We do often find our dear selves wanting to really please others and that can somehow harm us thereafter, also even at our own expense. But always learning to say “no” When it definitely necessary is a very crucial skill we all should develop in ourselves.

Do You Always Find It Hard to Say NO to People's Requests?

Though For some out there, saying “no” always feels like maybe letting someone down because this was how I do feel until I learn the hard way about it. I as well used to find myself among those people. So Whenever someone do asked for help, I always felt so compelled to say yes and do it, even if it really didn’t suit my very needs. But I really learned that the dear saying “no” is not a bad thing; it’s definitely about protecting my very own time and as well my well-being.

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Reasons Why People Find It Difficult to Say NO

Many of the people always struggle perfectly with saying “no” probably due to fear of them disappointing others or as well damaging relationships. Others too worries more about being judged or definitely labeled as a selfish person. Some too may even feel so obligated to help because they do fear those consequences of the refusal. It’s then so much essential to really recognize that we can also say “no” without necessarily being unkind.

What Was That Experience That Taught You to Say NO?

• Let me sincerely share my own story. A pretty friend of mine one time like that asked me to borrow him some money. I did explained well to him that I didn’t have much to really spare and so I needed my funds for food and most of schoolwork. He emotionally promised to pay me back just within two days that he is expecting money, and even with an extra money for my trouble. I then felt guilty and so lent him the money, stressing out so well that I needed it back so soon.

But then Weeks turned into some months, and yet he never returned the money nor cares. He as well even asked me to also borrow more! I finally courage up to tell him, “No, I say to him i need you to pay me back first.” It was really hard, but I then realized that I really had to stand up for myself here. Imagining till date he's not responding to my chats nor picking my calls 📞 and still doesn't bother paying back. "So this really helps me to build up on occasion I have to say no to someone."

Advice for Those Who Struggle to Give NO as an Answer

If you really find it somehow hard to say “no,” please always start small. Then Practice saying it in a less stressful situations. But Remember, it’s so very okay to really prioritize your needs. Your time and the resources are much valuable. In Saying “no” can really help you maintain a pretty healthy boundaries and as well keep your relationships more strong in the long run because Many relationships are ruin after offering help that was supposed to be respond with no.
Please So go ahead, give yourself that very permission to say “no” when you need to!

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Conclusion

Saying "No" has always being a tough decision mostly to people who are generous and always wanting to be there and lift others. But we must always know when to say no, so as to help and save ourselves from unnecessary trauma and emotional downgrade.

I invite my friends, @nsijoro, @sahmie and @pea07 to join me in the contest. let's all learn what way saying no can be helpful.
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