My personal perspective about courtship

When you are In love, there is this feeling that cannot be explained inside of you, you feel satisfied and happy that is why love is seen as a beautiful thing and a good thing to happen to anyone.

It is also a wonderful thing to know that romantic love can only be felt towards one person at a time that is why it is possible to get married to one person.

My name is @blessedbee, and I am happy to participate in this contest, I will be sharing my viewpoint on the topic COURTSHIP.

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MY UNDERSTANDING ABOUT THE WORD COURTSHIP

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Courtship is the process in which a man makes his intention about a woman known to both families, during this period of time the intending couples spend much time together.

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My Introduction day with my husband.

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They study each other's behaviour, they get to know the likes and dislikes of one another, they even used the opportunity to plan for their marriage, they decide how their family will be managed, the number of children they will have.

It is during courtship that the both parties know if they are compatible.

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HOW CAN PEOPLE IN COURTSHIP MAINTAIN A GOOD RELATIONSHIP THAT WILL LEAD TO MARRIAGE

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In other to have a successful marriage, intending couples need to do a lot of work in their relationship, this includes:

Having much time for themselves:
spending quality time together will help them know each other very well, it will enhance trust and make their love grow stronger every day. Couples who spent time together are always considered to be best of friends because they have a deeper understanding of each other behaviour, they can defend each other if need be, so it is wise to spend time together because it will help them to maintain a good relationship with each other that will possibly lead to marriage.

Making communication a priority:
Communication is very vital just like spending time together, during courtship, intending couples need to make it a question and answer session so per say, they need to ask about everything they need to know, and the other person need to be a honest as possible.

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Getting ready to attend Christian meeting together during our courtship days.

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Getting to know family members:
Intending couples need to b acquainted with other family members because marriage does not finish with one person, they have to make friends with their family members,spend time together as a family and prove themselves worthy of the task.

Test the anger management of each other:
it is very important to know your partner's behaviour when he or she is angry, so during this period, something will surely come up which will make room for them to showcase their anger, then it will be easier to know if to continue or not. Their actions will determine if they can easily forgive a mistake and forget. This point is very very essential because some marriages have failed because of lack of forgiveness and bad way of handling misunderstanding.

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On our way to a family member's house to spend some time with her.

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THINGS TO BE HIDDEN DURING COURTSHIP

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Well, it is not good to hide essential things from each other during courtship because this is the time they get to know each other. If they hide anything it therefore means the relationship is built on false and deceit.

But at same time one needs to be discrete on what to say, for example;

• a past wrong conduct that have been long forgotten, you need to keep it in the past.

• your family secrets need to remain secret.

• Your mum or dad's hidden character need to remain hidden.

• Your family weak points need to be hidden.

These and many other delicate matters like that is not to be discussed during courtship because the above mentioned points cannot add any value to your marriage rather it will bring problems in the future.

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TIME FRAME DURING COURTSHIP

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There is no specific time frame, but at the same time it should not be forever, courtship should be done when one is ready mentally, emotionally and above all financially.
It should not be in a rush, the intending couples need to take their time and sort out everything before getting down the aisle, they should not take many years as it will show unseriousness, and wrong conduct may set in.

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Accompanying him to get something for his family during courtship.

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IS COURTSHIP A GUARANTEE FOR SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE

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NO. It is not a guarantee, there are many more things you will find out after marriage, even though you court for years you cannot see such behaviour, those things can spoil the marriage. There are still others who did not court but have a successful marriage, so it is not a guarantee, it is only by special grace that one have a successful marriage.

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I will love to invite
@zory23
@vickmoon
@eliany
To participate in this contest.