My personal perspective about courtship

Love is a beautiful thing, they say. It's a special feeling everyone wants to experience, and at some point in our lives we need that special person in our lives, that's our married mates. But how can we know if that admirable woman/man is suitable for marriage? This is the part courtship plays; therefore, in this post, I will be writing about courtship.

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What is your understanding of the word courtship?

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Courtship is a period that a man and a woman who intend to get married to each other spend to know each other better before marriage. Therefore, the objective of courtship is for a mature man and woman to get to know each other's attributes and see if they can spend their lives together as married couples.

Marriage is not a playful thing; it's not something someone just entered and moved out of; it's a lifetime relationship. So courtship is there to help us see the good side of the person we intend to get married to, or even the bad side before we decide to make that bold step of getting married. And it's better not to get married to someone who exhibits character we know we can't cope with in courtship. You see, this is just the aim of courtship; for courting couples to know themselves before deciding whether to get married to each other or not.

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How can people in courtship maintain a good relationship that can lead to marriage?

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Courtship is a relationship, and as we know, good communication matters a lot in relationships. What do I mean? Courting couples should avail themselves to communicate effectively with each other. They should call each other, talk to each other as frequently as possible, and remember that healthy communication is a healthy relationship.

Courting couples should create time to meet physically, and this time, they will communicate by looking at each other in the eyes. With this, they will get to know each other.

Courting couples should avail themselves to go for a picnic, and this could be on a beach, at the park, or wherever is best for them. The aim is just for them to have fun while getting to know the attributes of each other.

Courting couples should care for each other, and be there for each other. And remember, this is not single-sided.

Most importantly, they should acknowledge the originator of marriage, God almighty by praying to him individually and together, and adhering to his principles.

Even after doing all these, courting couples may still decide to go their separate parts because they have seen something in themselves they can't cope with. They should not feel ashamed; courtship has achieved its objective, that is, getting to know if they can successfully spend the rest of their lives as married couples.

Attended a wedding together	Drove around the city

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Are there things to be hidden during courtship? If yes, what are they? If No back your answers with your reasons.

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I think what should be known, should be made known and not hidden. The likes and dislikes of courting couples should be made known to each other. The occupation and the family of each other should be made known to each other. Some even chose to tell each other about their past relationships and mistakes. Just be real in courtship.

I feel being real and open-minded in courtship will help achieve its objective. If courting mates hide important things from each other, they may not know each other well, and end up getting married to the wrong person which would likely lead to a broken marriage, then the objective of courtship is deterred.

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Do you think there's a time frame in courtship? Explain.

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There's no specified time for courtship. But getting to know each other should not take forever; remember, expectations that are unduly prolonged make the heart sick. If courtship is prolonged more than it should, it may cause one of the parties to become sluggish in the relationship or even leave the relationship. Therefore, I feel six months to one year is okay.

When we decided to take a bold step and she said yes	Our wedding day, courtship achieved its aim positively

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Is courtship a guarantee for a successful marriage?

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If courting couples finally decide to marry each other, it means they have gotten to know each other, know the endearing qualities of each other and the bad sides of each other, and decide they can cope with those bad sides because no one is perfect.

There is no ideal marriage, and of course, married couples get to know themselves better than courting couples. Being successful in courtship does not guarantee success in marriage.

Married couples should work on making their marriages successful. I feel how married couples can make their marriages successful is another topic I would like to write about in another post.

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