Steem4nigeria Accelerator Contest Week 51: I Learnt to Say NO.

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"Can you please send me airtime, it's urgent" you friend ask, and you know very that you're not capable at the moment, you said "YES" because you feel like if you said No he or she might get angry or call you a stingy person. I'd experience this several times and I know there's other people like me who had face the same situation.

Do you always find it hard to say NO to people's request?

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I was chatting with a friend on phone and at a point my airtime was exhausted, I had to borrow from my network because I'd enjoyed what we were talking about and she is my gist comrade. After about 30 minutes, our conversation lead to turning it to video call, as we were about to start the call, it ended immediately so I try to call her back to find out. she said she doesn't have data that I should send her airtime so that she can subscribe for data.

Deep down the one I used to subscribe for my data and airtime was borrowed and I didn't have anything at the moment to share airtime or buy data for her, I knew that if I said no she will be thinking that I have the money but I don't just want to help her, so I quickly said yes that I will send her data which I had to borrow again to send the airtime to her. I did not want her to think am stingy. What a life.

Mention reasons why people find it difficult to say NO?

• 🛑To avoid been rejected.

• 🛑fear of disappointing others.

• 🛑Having a desire to please others in order to maintain a relationship.

• 🛑Placing others by prioritizing others need over one's own.

• 🛑To avoid trouble or conflict.

• 🛑Unable to stand on their own decision.

• 🛑To avoid being called a stingy or selfish person.

• 🛑Being overcommitted.

• 🛑Lack of practice of saying NO any request.

• 🛑Being emotional about the person that is asking for the request and what he or she is requesting for.

This are some the reasons why people find it hard to say "NO"

What was that experience that taught you to say "NO" ?

The experience that taught me to say No is when my neighbor at the working were celebrating a wedding. I was still new because I started recently but I rejected it because I didn't too know any of them. I had no intention of drinking the mineral but they insist I should take it because they have known my boss for a long time. I collected and kept it till my boss came.

As an african boy with better home training plus my steeze and 100% composure, I dare not take anything foma stranger. I waited for my boss in other to show it to her since she knows them very well. The first question she asked was: were you not taught not to collect anything from a stranger? I explain to her that I rejected it but they insisted I should take it, and that I didn't have intention of drinking it. She told me that I didn't stand on my word, my NO supposed to be NO no matter what happen. I should resist if they insist. That was an interesting advise.

What is your advice for those who still struggles to give NO as an answer

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❤️My little advise I those who are still struggling to give "NO" to an answer is that they should practice self awareness, meaning that knowing their own need, their limit and boundaries.

❤️The habits of saying "No" know might be hard to stop but with gradual process they can be able to come out of it. So another advise is that they should start with small small offer to say know.

❤️The most helpful advise is surrounding with people who value and respect your opinion, that's to say, being with people who respect your boundaries and encourage assertiveness can also help.

I will like I invite @eglis, @alexanderpeace, @missyleo, @jewel005 and @mesola to participate in this contest

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@steem4nigeria