what do I say to those people that don't pursue their dreams and are locked into their careers because they are too afraid to take risks and pursue something meaningful well the first thing I would say is well you should be afraid of taking risks and pursuing something meaningful but you should be more afraid of staying where you are if it's making you miserable it's like the first thing you want to do is dispense with the idea that you get to have any permanent security outside of your ability to contend and adapt it's the same issue with children it's like you're paying a price by sitting there being miserable you might say well the devil I know is better than the one I don't it's like don't be so sure of that the clock is ticking yeah and if you're miserable in your job now and you change nothing in five years. You'll be much more miserable and you'll be a lot older but isn't it a luxury to pursue what is meaningful our viewers have mortgages they have children, they have payments and loans it's a luxury to pursue because we lack the resources.
I don't think I don't remember I'm not talking about what makes you happy it's a luxury to pursue what makes you happy it's a moral obligation to pursue what you find meaningful, and that doesn't mean it's easy it might require sacrifice if you need to change your job to let's say you have family and and and and children and a mortgage you have responsibilities you've already picked up those responsibilities you don't just get to walk away scot-free and say well I don't like my job I quit that's no strategy but what you might have to do is you think well this job is killing my soul all right so what do I have to do about that well I have to look for another job well no one wants to hire me. It's like okay maybe you need to educate yourself more maybe you need to update your curriculum vitae your resume maybe you need to overcome your fear of being interviewed maybe you need to sharpen your social skills like you, you have to think about these things strategically if you're going to switch careers you have to do it like an intelligent, responsible person that might take you a couple of years of effort to do properly.
When you say pursue something meaningful is it to have a location I think it's more important to have an ethos an ethic the first thing that you want to do is figure out imagine you were taking care of yourself like you were someone you cared for then you should figure out well if you could have what you needed and wanted what would it be what sort of friends would you have what would your family relationships look like how would you conduct yourself with your children how would you educate yourself you need to think through how it is that your life could be properly arranged. If you had that ability, and then you can aim at that and the funny thing is is that if you do pause it a goal of that sort and work towards it you will move towards it the goal will change because you'll learn things along the way, but I mean I've dealt with hundreds of people in my clinical and consulting practice, and we set a goal we develop a vision and work towards it, and things inevitably get better for people.
so it's not a luxury it's difficult it's a moral responsibility, and it isn't happiness it's not the pursuit isn't for happiness, and that might be the best thing that ever happened to you because it's the structure you're in is going in that direction, and you can't stop it it's like get the hell out of there and find something else, so it's not that hard to find a job when you already have a job that's another thing to keep in mind to you know whenever you're working, and you will be especially in the world of today where jobs are relatively uncertainties you should always have an escape-proof plant, and it should be active because if you don't have an escape route and you can't getaway. You can't say no and if you can't say no you can't bargain and if you can't bargain you're a slave so those that's how the world is set out at home it's probably always been like that but it's something that you need to know because you got to watch if you're if your being is objecting to someone to something that someone is forcing you to do maybe you're right maybe you shouldn't be doing it and lots of people end up living meaningless lives and that's not a very good term because there's no such thing as a meaningless life. After all, one of the meanings of life is suffering and there's no way you're going to escape that so you will not have a meaningless life you'll have a life that's only suffering and I wouldn't recommend that.