"How to Change Introverted Personality?"

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In life, our identity is who we are. An understanding of who one he's, is the beginning of ones life.

Who are introverts?

Introverts are people who tends to work alone, shrink from social contact, fold inwards and turn inside to become preoccupied with their own thoughts which is agreeable by them.

They have a natural attitude of mind to listen more than they speak which make them exceptional listeners and that ability makes them excellent at understanding messages described to them.

The condition of being folded inward is not just a personality trail but a whole way of life which involves enjoying moment of isolation, deep contemplation and self reflection and no one can change any person God created except God Himself and before God steps in, He must be invited to come in by the person and intervent for him.

Introvert personality is a choice thing but, what causes a person to be in a condition of being folded inward and always want to be alone.

One can not stop being an introvert or completely change the introverted aspect of ones personality because there are large indefinite number of reasons why they chose to become an introvert.

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1.Lack of true identity: The bible says "Ye are God's; and all of you are children of the most High (Psalm 82:6). You are a god and one with God, that means one have to act, think, walk and exercise dominion like God why then do they chose isolation, folded inward and always want to be alone. is because of lack of knowing their true identity in life.

2.Anxious feelings of being Judged by other people. They think people are judging them so that fear takes over them.

3.Scared of stepping out of their satisfaction Zone. Satisfaction zone are very sweet but if one remain there for too long, one can't know much about life etc.

So you see that you can not change an introvert personality but just make him happy by letting them know that you are there any time they want to talk with you but don't force them to open up if they are not in the mood to open up.

My experience back then in my secondary school days, a close friend of mine was an introvert because he as this prominent attribute that;

1.He want to know people on a deeper level

2.He have a hard time when it comes with conflicts

3.He always need much of time for himself

4.Much socializing with others will drain him out and he will be very weak and he will tell me he want to be alone.

5.He learn fast by watching and he's very creative.

6.He is a talkative when we both are together and feel more comfortable but when others come close my talkative friend suddenly become weak and want to leave suddenly etc.

He was very close to me only, he enjoy spending time with only me rather than large group and I noticed he feels this shyness in him that involves fear of negative evaluation in him.

So one day I explained to my father about this my friend prominent attribute and my Dad said "I should embrace him and always carry him along" though sometimes he's very annoying I still have to learn more about him which I did. Let me just mention few;

1.He keep relationship minimal but deep.

2.The people he trust are people he knows better than anyone else.

3.He fall in love with a lady which later become a close friend too.

4.He value appreciation in small things that worth nothing etc.

After knowing all this things about him I started enageing him in social activities like;
1.We both attend social fellowship gathering together. Though it was not easy but with prayers to God for help, he started enjoying it.

2.Mindfulness medication and that only gave him inner peace which he was lacking.

3.I make him have confidence in himself by telling him to accept himself for who he is and fear, shyness and isolation that do bring weakness as no place to stay again then to go from him.

4.I do ask him to share what he as in mind and he use it in form of an art work to share he's experience and express himself because he as a creative mind set.

5.I engage him in different topics of discussion. So anytime he we are together, he's always prepared to discuss and he talks so much.

My Suggestions to introvert personality

1.Be proud of yourself, for you have identity that people can notice and when you accept yourself for who you are, you have protect your mental health as an introvert.

2.When ever that introvert spirit comes, always find someone close to you and talk with and everything in your thoughts will flow normal.

3.Always take your time to think about a question and that's okay then share your ideas when others have finished sharing their own.

4.Force yourself to attend social gatherings and always share your opinion before you have carefully weight it done.

Conclusion; My friend's parents later came and appreciate me for encouraging their son from isolation state and now he's happy with life and beautiful family is the Lord's doing.

Introvert personality are great listeners and they are not lazy people, they are very strong in creative work. When they know their identity everything become more easier for them to progress and excell through life. Don't look down on your ideas they are great.

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