Hi @Jovita30,

This is a deep question that cannot be answered in simple terms. This arises from a flawed understanding of what love is and the myths about love and God that most of hold as true. Any simple and short answer of anything less than the length of a book is bound to lead to misunderstanding and confusion.

If you and your partner have the patience to read, share and discuss ideas with an open mind, then I would recommend that both of you read the books, "Conversation With God, Book 1, Book 2, Book 3 and then Friendship With God" by Neale Donald Walsch in that order. The answer to your question will be found in the last book but it will not make any sense if you jump into it straight away without first reading the earlier three books.

These books have been read by millions of people in 37 languages. (see http://www.nealedonaldwalsch.com/About/Neale). The first book was also a publishing phenomenon, staying on the New York Best Sellers List for 137 weeks. The other books also appeared prominently on the list.

Here is an extract of a review of Friendship With God from the Amazon:

Trailwulf
Retired clergy, writer, and inveterate hiker | MIDLAND, MICHIGAN, US

I am a retired clergy who somehow missed "Friendship" when it first came out, having read the trilogy "Conversations (books 1-3)" and "Companionship (book 5)". I was delighted to discover and read this segment in the series. The dialogue format is easily read and holds many deep and profound insights, which the average person can grasp. It does not slip into philosophically speculative theology. From the beginning it is grounded in experience. Walsh gives us many autobiographical sketches that help us see the roots of his insights. This will turn off someone who is rigidly fundamentalist "anything," and it will appeal most to the "spiritual but not religious" folk who are searching for some way to articulate the deep driving "knowing" that has made them critics of established religion and yet left them longing for someone to express the unseen, driving energy of the universe. Walsh knows that "God" is not some entity out there, somewhere but within all that is, and he tells us he is using the dialogue motif to help bridge between transcendent theology to imminent theology. It all boils down to accepting the fact that Love is the driving energy of the universe and is what we really are (God in us), even though we are often ignorant or in denial of that and do ourselves and each other great disservice and harm in the process. I have used and encouraged clergy colleagues to read Walsh to help make their preaching "real." This book is no exception, but it is not just for the professionally religious but all who remain life-long seekers of truth.