Even if a child is young, he is able to understand and distinguish between right and wrong and what is the difference between good and bad. The sound nature is in its prime and youth, and has not been afflicted by fatigue and the sickness of sins and has not yet relapsed. It is easy for the child to receive what is good and what benefits him, but the child loves to play. And fun and experience. He does not like discipline or restrictions, so he must be left with some freedom with some controls that are not stressful and restrictive of his mind and movement, and before that All together, the father and mother must have sound morals and upbringing, including good behavior, good manners, and sophisticated discourse between them. The morals between the parents must not deteriorate due to reason and good manners, and they must not speak in front of the children in an inappropriate manner.
The child imitates his father in speech, action, and behavior. If he finds him listening to songs and singing, the child does that, and if he finds him reading the Qur’an and listening to it, he does that as well. The mother bears most of this educational burden of correcting the child’s behavior throughout the day, especially during the father’s absence at work or on his travels. Do not evade this and say: I cook, wash, and clean, and I have no time, or I cannot raise the children. Whoever does that is a weak and negative woman, and the contract of good manners will be loosened from her hand, especially this woman who leaves her children pregnant. What is strange is because of her laziness and lack of interest, or because of her feeling of irresponsibility placed on her shoulders, and she is justified by the fact that she is a woman, not a man.
But the role in the home is indivisible in raising the children until the son emerges among the people with a great and successful personality, free of diseases and ailments. Most of the young people who enter prisons and die as young men are the children of neglect, neglect, quarrels, cursing, and cursing between spouses. You will not find a young man or boy with bad or obscene behavior. speech, stealing, or committing criminal acts, unless he was raised in that and did not find anyone to deter him. Rather, perhaps the one who raised him in that position, he may hear from His father, for example, says some obscene words, or brags, for example, about a heinous crime he committed one day, or drinks cigarettes, drugs, or the like in front of him.
The boy grows up on this because of a corrupt role model and an educator who does not know the foundations of education, and these people cannot be excused for their ignorance, as society is unforgiving and judgment from all sides does not accept an excuse. A girl may fall into vice and not find a way out for herself, because she did not find an accountant who would hold her accountable or determine her path and regulate it for her. Controls that protect her from this, with sound awareness from the mother without shame between them in chaste feminine guidance, so that our children do not fall into the pit of fall and have their feet humiliated.
How do you raise and discipline your son?
1- Accompanying the child without pampering or being mean.
2- Do not be cruel to the child and do not hit him or insult him.
3- Choose a name for him and a mother for him and avoid ways of being stubborn towards him.
4- Teaching the child taste and etiquette, especially in choosing words.
5- Track the child in every big and small thing without hovering over him and confiscating all his actions.
6- Allow him to play and have fun, but within reasonable limits. If a child does not play when he is young, he will play when he is young.
7- Accompanying the son within the limits of politeness so that you can learn from him what he does, what directs him, and what he wants.
8 - Do not order him to study and do the things you want from him, but do otherwise with him.
9 - Do not be harsh on your son so that he does not look for someone else to complain to him and tell him about the cruelty he finds on your part. He may even run away from home under any pretext, even to study in a far away place.
10 - Do not give him everything he asks for, so that he does not grow up submissive and not taking responsibility.
11 - If the father is cruel to the boy or the mother to the girl, the boy may become gay and the girl may become gay, because cruelty is among the specific reasons for that.
