My Entry, "Women in the Spotlight ✨" #06

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During a wedding ceremony, I was told about a certain woman, who attends parties uninvited. She was my neighbor next door. While the person was still talking about my neighbor to me, we accidentally ran into her.

I stopped the conversation to confirm the information from my neighbor in her presence of the gossiper.
I could literally see the look of surprise and disappointment on her face.

It appears that the lady gisting me about my neighbor has never met my neighbor in person. She was only telling me what she had from others because she wanted to start up a conversation with me and that particular topic looks like the in thing in town.

Gossip has ruined a lot of good relationships and has tarnished the good names of so many.

The truth is, you can not stop people from gossiping to you, but you can at least confirm the informational before telling it to another if you desire to me a gossiper.

Women find it comforting and therapeutic to talk.
Sometimes when a women comes to you, talking about her problems, it's not because she wants a solution but rather she wants to be listened to.
This is always the case most times.

Why are women called the queen of gossip?

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Although we would not be outrightly accurate to say that women are the queens of gossip because men gossip too.

But looking at the nature and build up of a woman, it's easier for women to be more acclimatized to gossiping than men...

Firstly, they are more emotional than men, so they express their emotions with each other through gossip, happenings in their lives and those around them are all shared amongst themselves as “gists” ...as opposed to a man who keep to themselves most times.

Also they bond better when they talk, women do more talking and they see it as a means of bonding. That's why most women consider themselves as best of friends on the strength of the amount of info or gist each other have and share, both of themselves and of others. They build, maintain and counsel themselves by gossiping

Another perspective is that in a bid to not seem inferior, they feel talking or sharing information about themselves and also others is a means to elevate their personality... In which the desire to speak about others is born.
Unlike most men, who believe more in deeds than speech...

Which topics do women like to gossip about the most?

Mostly about other women, Other women's husbands, children, family, siblings, business, church, e.t.c. Then in the build up of the gossip about other women, other aspects of discussion is unfolded... Like

• Business
• Relationship
• Fashion E.t.c

But mostly, it's root are the the lives of other women, in comparison to themselves at times.

How do women find time to gossip despite having such a busy routine?

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• Time is not the biggest factor as compared to secrecy.
  As per, the need to be sure that the gossip is only reaching who they are talking to is more important. They find out if the other end is alone, or in a secure location where the gossip won't be leaked

• They gossip on their schedules, while at work any spare time is enough, while on the road , while at home. Thanks to social media and telecommunications.

• They gossip, anywhere, anytime and on the go

• Time is not really a considerable factor when women have to gossip. For a gossiper, gossiping is like oxygen to them and they can create time for it effortlessly.

What kind of news do women like to hear? About neighbors or about movies?

The news about their neighbors are woman wants to hear and talk about. A gossiper would entertain and would be willing to go any length to get info about her neighbor.
they feels safe to know what happening next door.

A gossiper wants to know what's happening to you, not to help, but rather to talk about it to another neighbor.

CONCLUSION

To me gossip is not a necessary evil and could be avoided.
You must not tarnish the image of another to gain relevance. Personally I have been a victim of gossip that was why I confronted the lady vat the party the way I did.

Woman are known as builders not destroyers, so we should build with every part of us including our mouths.

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