Contest | "Nowadays love is a fashion or a feeling?"

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Hello ladies

True love doesn't happen right away; it's an ever growing process.

Nowadays it has become a fashion for a young boy or girl to be in a love relationship, express your views on this?

Well, it's now like a culture around the globe. I know it was never designed by God to be so. God only ordained marriage, not love and friendship.

To some young people, not having a boyfriend or girlfriend is like having lost it. It seems to them like they have not arrived. Everybody wants to be called a big girl or a big boy.

Some young people go into relationships because they are mocked, because they had a bet, or because of their peers. But since everybody is doing it, then it's acceptable.

I know a young girl who shared her story of how she was talked into a relationship. She said it was never her intention to do so, but the boyfriend asked her a lot of questions that she couldn't get the answers to, but she thought about it for a few days.

She returned to this boyfriend to let him know she had decided to have him as a boyfriend. She returns home late, speaks in a rude tone, and sometimes she doesn't even sleep at her house!

She became a big girl around her neighborhood and did some funny things. At the end, it was terrible. She got pregnant and told her boyfriend about it, but the boy told her to handle it herself and that she should not get him involved. I bet that was the moment her senses returned.

Around my neighborhood today, if you don't have a boyfriend, it's as if you know nothing. like you are not in the 21st century.

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Is love at this age true? Is there any future for love made at this age?

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I don't think there is any future for love at this age. The age we are talking about here should be the age these young people should be thinking about their future. working out things to make their future bright.

This stage of their lives shouldn't be about friendship because it comes with loads of distractions. How can a young lady concentrate in class when she has a romantic letter in her hand, smiling all to herself while lectures are going on?

Love at this age is not true; it's a mere infatuation that lasts only for a while, and everything is over. In the movie My fault, there was a young lady and a young guy. Both parents were getting married, so they were supposed to be siblings.

They got up with affection and felt secretly, but the guy knew the lady was too young for sex, and guess what the lady responded when the guy told her, "Kiss me till I'm 18." That was crazy because she feels like she is in love, and I see no future in that secret relationship.

The only future that awaits these relationships is heartbreak, unwanted pregnancy, the contraction of diseases, and emotional trauma.

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What is the belief in this false relationship?

Anyone in a fake relationship believes they are comfortable not in love, because their partner might just be coming only when they feel they want him or her around. They feel comfortable knowing that they can call off the relationship anytime and get another one to replace.

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They believe it's the trending thing because both young and old are doing it. In society, the men even help to instill this mindset in the young ones that they are big girls and boys, so they should follow the trend.

They believe life is perfect when they are in a relationship. They just want to enjoy life the way other peers are enjoying it. I know everyone has their beliefs and their reasons.

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Give some suggestions to test true love?

Patient test: True love comes with patience. Patience is not tolerance, but a perfect understanding. Tolerance is delayed judgment. Any relationship trying to change someone or shape them into what you want always ends in frustration and problems.

Forgiveness test: Don't marry someone without a fault, but marry someone you can learn to forgive. There is no perfect person out there. As much as you can forgive yourself, you can also forgive someone else.

Knowledge test: Is he or she making an investment in knowing you? Finding out what makes you happy and what makes you sad Be sure he is interested in knowing more about you and your relationship.

Let me stop here and allow others bring in their ideas. Thanks to @aviral123 for hosting us this week.

@goodybest, @chant @mariami you can bring in your ideas, it will be greatly appreciated.