Contest | "Romance, the Ultimate Key to a successful Marriage"

_{Be your own version of romantic, don't follow others.}

Hello everyone, I'm @Ravikadevy, I'm glad you visited this post, I hope you enjoyed this story.

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I am like a queen in a kingdom who is served gently and lovingly every day, always cared for, always fulfilled whatever wishes I ask for. Life is so beautiful when it comes to love, because love is a story that will never end.

💘 Do you think being romantic guarantees the safety of any marriage?

Yes, being romantic in my opinion greatly guarantees the security of our marriage, the more romantic a couple is the more they will always love and care for each other. According to what I have learned, being romantic has many benefits, one of which is that being romantic can also reduce stress hormones in couples which then affects the improvement of mental health.

Romance is free, the little things we do such as holding our partner's hand when walking, kissing our partner's forehead before traveling may not seem very romantic but such love language means a lot to the marriage relationship so actually we don't need expensive things to realize romance to our partner, just be a romantic version of ourselves, our husbands are the romantic friends we have, so in my opinion being romantic is very secure for marriage. If we can't be romantic to our spouse, then who can he be romantic with, lest our husband find his own romantic friend.

But there are times when being romantic can't guarantee a marriage relationship, I've seen some couples who are clearly very romantic, they actively show off their affection on social media. But after a long time, the bad news happened that their partner chose to have an affair with another woman. This is only natural, because there are many people out there who don't value the meaning of loyalty, they only care about their own desires and lusts.

💘 Have you experienced romance before, yes/no? How does it feel?

Of course, everyone must have felt in love. There is a poem that I often hear "life without love is like a flowerless garden, " that's how beautiful falling in love is like a vast and beautiful garden decorated with many colorful flowers. Why is that? Because couples who love each other will complement and cover each other's shortcomings. Life becomes more colorful, every day we are always cared for.

I am like a queen in a kingdom who is served gently and lovingly every day, always cared for, always fulfilled whatever wishes I ask for. Life is so beautiful when it comes to love, because love is a story that will never end.

💘 To have a successful marriage, what must you do?

_{The main key to a successful marriage is patience, never face problems with emotions.}

To have a successful marriage, one of the main keys is patience. When a ship is rocked by big waves, the solution is to stay on board, keep the ship balanced and go according to our desired destination. Not choosing to jump off the ship because you will sink and perish.

That is the key in dealing with marriage to be successful, you must be patient in dealing with all the problems that exist. Never face problems with emotions, remember once again the key is patience.

💘 What are the romantic techniques you think should apply to our love lives?

The best romantic technique in marriage in accordance with religious instructions, marriage should be sakinah (peaceful), mawadah (full of love), warahmah (full of grace). In my opinion, the most important thing is the first to accept each other's strengths and weaknesses with that we as a couple can complement each other, because we and our partners are only human beings with many shortcomings.

_{Always taking time, don't always be busy working so you forget to give valuable time to your partner. My husband and I went on an out-of-town vacation to enjoy the beautiful sea view and eat together.}

The second is openness or honesty, husbands and wives must be open to each other so that there are no differences of understanding and even if there are differences of understanding by being open to each other can help solve problems effectively, so that our household becomes a peaceful household because every problem is solved with a cool head.

The third is to respect our partner's opinion or decision, in households differences of opinion are common so to avoid differences of understanding we must respect our partner's decision while still on a positive path. If there is a difference of understanding, do not also say harsh words to your partner, keep saying it in a gentle tone.

The fourth is to treat our partner as we want to be treated by our partner. For example, the little things we do such as asking if we have eaten or not, or when our husband is tired after coming home from work we immediately massage him, over time small things like that will make our partner melt and benefit our marriage too, because your partner is a reflection of yourself.

And the last one is always taking time, don't always be busy working so you forget to give valuable time to your partner, with quality time the relationship between husband and wife is getting closer. Quality time can be in any form, it can be in the form of worship, entertainment (watching), traveling, dinner, and sports.

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