Some ladies or people generally do not still like themselves even after they gave their lives to Christ. They've gone through a lot and need serious transformation of the mind.
Until you renew your mind, you will still have the same experiences you normally had before you became born again.
Who you were before you got born again is not the real you, you only became the real person after giving your life to Christ.
2 Corinthians 5:17 KJV
Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.
How did God set you free?
Colossians 1:13 KJV
Who hath delivered us from the power of darkness, and hath translated us into the kingdom of his dear Son:
The bible says through the death, burial and resurrection of our Lord Jesus Christ, we were set free from every negative life and satanic bondage. All we have to do is to believe the word of God.
Why did God set us free?
He set us free, so we can become who He created us to be and be able to worship Him.
God through Moses said to Pharaoh the Egyptian King in the book of Exodus. "Let my people go so they may serve me". (Exodus 7:16; 8:1,8,20; 9:1,13; 10:3).
God set you free by giving you power to control every thought that comes to your mind.
Ephesians 4:17-23 NLT
With the Lord's authority I say this: Live no longer as the Gentiles do, for they are hopelessly confused.
[18] Their minds are full of darkness; they wander far from the life God gives because they have closed their minds and hardened their hearts against him.
[19] They have no sense of shame. They live for lustful pleasure and eagerly practice every kind of impurity.
[20] But that isn't what you learned about Christ.
[21] Since you have heard about Jesus and have learned the truth that comes from him,
[22] throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life, which is corrupted by lust and deception.
[23] Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes.
The difference between the believers and unbelievers is that the believers knows the truth of God's word.
John 8:32 KJV
And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.
Being the real you or the new creation is a process. You have to work on yourself. Renewing your mind by the word of God is the magic. Romans 12:2
Who is the me?
The born again me.
1 John 3:1-3 NLT
See how very much our Father loves us, for he calls us his children, and that is what we are! But the people who belong to this world don't recognize that we are God's children because they don't know him.
[2] Dear friends, we are already God's children, but he has not yet shown us what we will be like when Christ appears. But we do know that we will be like him, for we will see him as he really is.
[3] And all who have this eager expectation will keep themselves pure, just as he is pure.
Philippians 1:6 NLT
And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.
We have been set free, we are God's children, it may not look like it, we need to just believe it. As we study God's word, God Himself will be changing us from glory to glory.
Galatians 5:1,13NLT
So Christ has truly set us free. Now make sure that you stay free, and don't get tied up again in slavery to the law.
[13] For you have been called to live in freedom, my brothers and sisters. But don't use your freedom to satisfy your sinful nature. Instead, use your freedom to serve one another in love.
What the bible is saying in these verses of scripture for you not to allow the old self control you. That is your thoughts or your behaviour take advantage of you. You have been set free from that life and you can serve God well now.
Don't think like the world, your thinking should line up with the person you are now.
Your real you has been there, it was just hidden inside all you all along.
God set you free to become His chosen vessel irrespective of your past or challenges of life.
He set you free to fulfill your destiny, to be the woman He created.
Everyone has a destination, all you have to do is to find yours.
-Jesus set you free to be your real you and not someone else.
Discover yourself and work to become that person.
Being set free to be you, does it mean you will be perfect, you won't make any mistake any more or someone can't correct you?
It means no matter what, you will believe in who God has created you to be, even when you do wrong. It should not change what you think about yourself as a child of God. The more you think positively about yourself, the more you become better.
Your real you is not what you see on the outside but what you are on the inside.
1 Peter 3:3-5 NLT
Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes.
[4] You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.
[5] This is how the holy women of old made themselves beautiful. They put their trust in God and accepted the authority of their husbands.
God expect you to walk in this new life or bring the inside out.
Romans 6:4 NLT
For we died and were buried with Christ by baptism. And just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glorious power of the Father, now we also may live new lives.
1 Peter 2:16 NLT
For you are free, yet you are God's slaves, so don't use your freedom as an excuse to do evil.
Say to yourself, I AM SET FREE TO BE ME AND NOT SOMEONE ELSE.
Prayer Point:
Ask God to show you who you really are.