"Wedding event"

Well, I is love weddings, beautiful clothes, smiling faces, food and drinks all around. Who wouldn’t love all of that?

How do you feel about attending a wedding event at a relative's wedding?

I always feel very elated attending the weddings of my relatives and even friends. Weddings can be a lot but all the vibes and happiness and all the plenty food to eat and drink are all part of the glamour.

I am always excited attending weddings especially that of my relatives but the amazing things about these weddings is that because they are weddings of people who are close to me, I end up finding myself so amassed in work that I end up missing all the vibes of the wedding because am running up and down to ensure the things assigned to me are well taken care of.

But if it’s a wedding of someone not close to me, I love those ones more because I get the opportunity to relax and enjoy all the vibes and fun that comes with being a wedding guest. Am always expectant to see all the glamour shows of the grooms men and brides women. I can’t seem to get enough of all the shenanigans that goes down in weddings.

How many wedding events have you attended and share your feelings and experiences there?

I have attended a lot of weddings, lots and lots and lots and believe me each of these weddings have their unique experiences. No two weddings are the same but from all the plenty weddings I’ve attended, one thread seems to run through most of them though not all and that’s the fact that the couples always come late to their own weddings.

Let me tell you some of those experiences. We have arrived or a wedding that was schedule for 10am. We were all seated and waiting for the bride and groom. The groom shows up two hours late without the bride. Both we and the groom were waiting for the bride. Could you believe that the bride showed up four hours late to her own wedding.

Everyone was angry, many invitees waited until they got tired and left. The wedding hall was almost empty before the wedding started. The level of disorganization was excess. The entire wedding was a disaster. And this couple separated four months after the wedding.

On another wedding I attended, the best man had forgotten to come with the wedding ring to the wedding. It was on the wedding venue that they had to look for ordinary rings from people who attended the wedding to use for the joining and this couple too were two hours late to their wedding.

On another occasion, the bride wedding dress had issues and we had to pause the wedding to fix the dress before the wedding continued.

On another wedding I attended, the bride was on her monthly period and her wedding gown got stained visibly and it was noticed late as she has been asked to March in, she couldn’t go to change cos everyone was already waiting for her. She had to go through the wedding with a blood stained wedding gown.

One other wedding, the couples came three hours late for the wedding. The priest who was to join them came early and was waiting for three hours for the bride and groom. The priest got angry and tired of waiting and left. They had to go beg the priest and paid a fine of 50,000 Naira before the priest agreed to come back and wed them.

While on another wedding the priest missed his way to the venue and kept the couples waiting for two hours. By the time he arrived, everyone was tired and angry. He ruined the day.

The dramas are unending. It’s been from one drama to another for these weddings. In all their peculiar dramas, we still find a way to overcome the dramas and ensure the wedding holds.

If you are married, how was your wedding event completed? If not, how do you plan to complete the event? Tell us about your future plans.

I’ve never being an advocate of big weddings, maybe I sound old school but I don’t want a big wedding. I’ve seen couples run into debt all in the name of having a big wedding to impress people and they end up in a fix of paying back debts after their wedding.

Many couples have confessed regretting spending too much money for their wedding. As for me, I am going to do a small wedding. Something that’s just for family and few friends. I don’t even have strength to stress talk more of spending money unnecessarily. I’d rather use that money to start up life with my husband than spend it on wedding events.

I know I don’t sound like a Gen -Z, well am not. So if am to marry tomorrow, I wouldn’t cut my cost accordingly to my size, I will cut it accordingly to the material and that material is very small. Hahahah.

If you have any customs or traditions of your family or area at wedding events, please share them with us.

Yes we have customs and traditions for wedding events in my country. The groom is expected to pay the bride price first before anything is allowed to start or happen. In the absence of the bride price, there’s no wedding.

There are a list of other items the groom is expected to bring for the father, mother and relatives of the bride. These things are subject to negotiations but must be provided for the wedding to start. These articles are provided in a wedding list and should be attend to.

When the ocassion starts, the bride will be allowed to move around with powder or eggs to rub on people or share to them and they would give her money in return as a means to support her marriage.

She would also be expected to use a glass of palm wine given to her to use in looking for her husband. When she identifies him, she like kneel down and give him the drink and he would drink and then she would carry him to her father for presentation and blessings.

And then the most interesting part of it all, the you may kiss the bride part. Hahahaha.

Weddings are beautiful celebrations a time of togetherness and feasting. I love weddings and I know you do too. Thank you for stopping by, I ask @wilmer1988, @paholags and @dirapa to join the contest.