LET'S START AT THE VERY BEGINNING.
Women control sex. Men control commitment. Because women have the pussy and men have the money.
Women are choosy with the men they sleep with. While men are choosy with the women they commit to.
Men are choosy in commitment because a man's commitment is costly to him in that he bears the financial costs of the relationship so who he commits to is a carefully made decision.
Women, on the other hand, are choosy with who they sleep with because sex carries so many physical, biological, psychological and societal risks for them. Everytime a woman sleeps with a man she risks Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) which tend to be more aggressive towards women and some of which can destroy her womb, she risks pregnancy which can go wrong if she gets an STI that can pass to her unborn baby, she risks physical harm on her delicate organs from sex with aggressive partners and she also risks dickmatization if the dick proves too good, driving her nuts and messing her up mentally.
A woman also risks socially when she has sex because sex with the wrong men - men who are judgemental and talk too much - will ruin her reputation in her community, church, school or workplace and bring her ratings down as far as marriage is concerned. So who a woman has sex with is a carefully made decision.
WOMEN AND COMMITMENT.
In sex women are invested and they have a lot to lose because their bodies are on the line, but in commitment they are not invested because they don't bring much to the table financially (the table being the relationship or the marriage), hence women initiate the most divorces.
Because they came empty-handed women don't lose anything by walking away anytime. A woman's power in a relationship is that she can walk away anytime, because she's not invested the way men are.
No matter how irresponsible and careless a married woman is, she's never the one who has to watch her life savings go down the drain as the marriage breaks down. It's the men who invest their life savings into a marriage. It's them who lose the most when relationships break down.
Most often men are irreversibly ruined financially by a divorce while a woman can simple marry another man.
MEN AND SEX.
When a man and a woman start a relationship all the financial costs, by default, fall on the man. He's the one expected to pay for the dates, buy the gifts, pay bride price, fund the wedding, organize a home, put food on the table and make sure the woman is provided for. Which means for men relationships costs money. And since a relationship can only happen if a man is committed to a woman, then commitment costs a man money. And because money is something a man works hard for, he has to choose his girlfriend and wife carefully or risk losing it all if he commits to the wrong woman who'll abandon him.
But on the other hand, men are not invested in sex because their money and their bodies are not on the line, and all they stand to lose during sex is some pocket change (since sex is as cheap as a loaf of bread), some sweat and maybe a tablespoon of sperm - hence men screw anything in a skirt and it is virtually impossible to get a man to take contraception seriously because he can't get pregnant no matter how careless he is with sex.
No matter how irresponsible a man is with his dick, he's never the one left carrying a baby. And STIs are generally kinder to men than they're to women. And even if an STI was to be so aggressive as to destroy a man's fertility, a barren man is less a catastrophe than a barren woman.
So men are careless with sex, while women are careless with commitment.
And men are careful with commitment, while women are careful with sex.
WHAT SEX MEANS TO MEN AND WOMEN.
For men sex offers maximum benefits (orgasms are always guaranteed and their bodies don't get ruined) while offering minimum risks - but sex is hard to get for them.
For women sex offers minimum benefits (many don't even orgasm) and maximum risks (pregnancy, disease, bonding issues with future men and it ruins women's bodies) but is easy to get.
Men go through life begging for sex. Women go through life turning down sex.
Men come from a place of sexual scarcity. Women come from a place of sexual abundance.
Men come from a place of sex without fear and without concerns because in sex men are not risking much. But women come from a place of sex filled with anxiety and concerns - due to the risks sex presents to them.
WHAT BLOCKS A WOMAN'S PLEASURE?
Although women get sex easy, the sex act itself is very dis-empowering for them. A woman is powerful out there when she's teasing men with her scanty clothing and tempting attire. But the moment the bedroom door closes behind her and the clothes come off and that dick slides into her pussy, the man has all the power. Never is a woman more vulnerable, more defenseless, more exposed and more overpowered, than when she has a dick buried inside her. Her pussy, heart and mind have all been penetrated and taken captive by the man - someone with so little to lose from the sex.
The man, hardly invested in the sex, controls the sex. The woman, she who has everything to lose, has zero control of the moment. If the man decides against condoms he'll most certainly get his way. If his dick is too big for her hole - too bad, she's going to walk funny and sit funny for the next couple of days. If the woman changes her mind and wants the sex to stop - too late, this train doesn't stop till ejaculation! If the man desires to come inside her, there's nothing to stop him.
When a woman is having sex with a man who doesn't love her and who's not committed to her in any way, she shoulders all the risks of the sex all on her own. Whatever the outcome of the sex - pregnancy or disease - she's on her own. She may use contraception but she knows no contraception is 100%. She may have the option to abort any unwanted pregnancy but most women don't feel okay with murdering unborn babies plus abortions carry their own risks. So whatever safety nets and measures exist to minimize the risk of sex for women they still feel exposed to many dangers.
And so, during the sex, while the man is lost in the bliss of intercourse enjoying the ecstasy of copulation, the woman's mind is restless with worry: "What if something goes wrong?", "What if the condom breaks?", "What if he doesn't pull out?", "What if I get pregnant?", "What if I get sick? Who will help me? Will this guy help me? But he doesn't even love me! Yes he gave me money to fvck me, but if I get a baby or a disease that money is peanuts".
Now, these thoughts are very distracting for a woman. They draw her mind away from the act she's participating in.
Instead of focusing on the action between her legs and savoring the sensations, the woman's mind is all over the place. On things that can go wrong. She's wondering what she'll do if things go sideways. Knowing fully well the man fvcking her won't be there for her should the worst happen.
All this brainwork drains the magic out of the sex. It negatively impacts on the woman's experience. It blocks her pleasure. She's too preoccupied analysing worst case scenarios to mentally relax and enjoy herself. She can't reach the highest highs of pleasure with these worries weighing on her mind. And so the sex ultimately never quite fulfill or satisfy her. Her mind is not present in the moment. She's too worried to enjoy anything. And days and weeks after the sex, she'll still worry about other consequences of the sex that may yet surface.
UNLOCKING A WOMAN'S ORGASMS THROUGH COMMITMENT.
NOW, when a woman is having sex with a man committed to her, who loves and cares for her, who values her and who has abundantly made it clear he is willing to shoulder the risks of sex together with her and has sufficiently invested in her as proof, it reassures her and gives her the confidence to cast her worries to the side. This casting away of worries, this alleviation of concerns, this neutralising of fears, this building of trust and confidence, this relief from anxiety - all this puts a woman in a safe and secure mental space. A good place. A happy place. This mental space, this good place, this happy place, is where a woman's orgasms come from.
The difference between committed, loving sex and uncommitted, casual sex, for a woman, is the STATE OF MIND she's in during the sex which in turn affects the amount of pleasure she can derive from the sex. Committed loving sex yields more pleasure.
Because sex, enjoyable as it is, has the potential to ruin a woman's life in so many ways, it is when a woman fully trusts her man to co-shoulder with her any undesirable outcomes, that sex becomes amazing for her. When a woman fully believes that a man will stand by her in dealing with whatever might happen to her because of the sex, her mind is free to let go of all worries and to focus on actually enjoying the sex - it is then that the orgasms will hit. And they'll hit more and more frequently for her.
When there are safety nets, a woman soars and touches the sky.
Inside a relationship, when it comes to sex, It's not so much the size of a man's dick or his sexual prowess that makes sex amazing for a woman, but it's what the relationship represents to her: security - courtesy of the man's commitment.
Her man's commitment to her enables the woman to cast her cares upon him, freeing her mind to fully partake of the moment.
"MONEY MAKES ME WET".
And it's not just the vanquishing of worries specific to sex that makes sex great for women. Women are historically poor and many struggle financially even though they have a job.
The worries that come with not having enough money - worrying about the bills, about food, about the cost of beauty products, clothing, her future, etc, all these are pleasure blockers in that they keep a woman's mind preoccupied - even during sex.
When a woman is a married virtually ALL these fears are allayed. She's at peace and her mind is free. This is fertile ground for women's orgasms.
Men think safe sex is condoms. And that's true. But for women safe sex goes further than just condoms. It includes financial aspects. Aspects that have NOTHING to do with sex. But aspects that, for women, have an immediate and direct effect on the sex.
And on condoms, if a woman has to use condoms to have sex with you already she views the sex as risky and already her pleasure has been blocked. Women hate condoms. And not because they enjoy less with the rubber on or they're allergic, but because of what the rubber symbolizes: "I don't trust you and we shouldn't be doing this, so let's keep our flesh from touching". Which makes the sex cold, detached, unromantic and mechanical - like sex between a man and a prostitute.
Women don't get joy from this kind of sex because it's not intimate. Because there is no skin to skin touch and no exchange of bodily fluids that build that connection and that bond where two become one.
Safe sex for women is sex where they don't have to use condoms because everything is safe . Sex that is happening at the right time with the right man in the right environment for the right reasons.
A slut who has given sex to many men for many years without getting so much as one orgasm can have her first orgasm in marriage with her VIRGIN HUSBAND. Not because virgin husband has superior skills. But because of the circumstances of the sex. The environment. The reasons. That in turn determine the quality of the sex.
QUANTITY VS QUALITY.
For a woman - as far as sex is concerned - the choice between being a hoe and being in a loving relationship with one man is the choice between QUANTITY and QUALITY. Where hoering offers high quantity sex, but a loving one-man relationship offers high quality sex.
A woman who has chosen sexual quantity is an insatiable black hole that consumes and consumes and can never have enough because unrestrained female sexual appetite is bottomless. Also a woman who, in general, orgasms easily during sex is likely to choose to be a hoe. Because she doesn't need that safe and secure mental space (which a relationship creates) to get the most out of sex.
THE OTHER SIDE OF THE COIN.
But, as with all things sex and romance, men and women live in different realities. Opposing realities. And sex and commitment is yet another area of opposites: while sex with commitment is the best sex for women, sex WITHOUT commitment is the best sex for men.
A man enjoys sex best when he has no regard, no respect and no care for the woman he's screwing. The woman the man holds in high regard whom he respects and cares about, sex with her doesn't quite blow his mind. It's that whole Madonna-Wh0re thing. Where the respected girlfriend or wife is loved but the debased hoe is lusted.