Interesting topic. Self-care should come first. It is how you happen to take responsibility for your life that will determine how people treat your life. Don't take the negative, don't agree with it, infact reject negativity from people around you, don't take abusive treatment lightly from people around you. If you let this get into you, when you sit to think of better things, such negativity might be what will come to your thinking. It waste your time or letting you think that's who you really are.