In the previous article I shared with this community - Project Hope - the results of some research on the situation of couples and the pandemic. The feedback from partners was positive, which suggests that good communication, tolerance, empathy, caring, conflict resolution and understanding are key to maintaining healthy relationships.
But what is happening with single people? I asked this question in view of the fact that quarantine has kept us isolated, and also that biosecurity regulations require distance, little contact, the use of masks and other factors that are perhaps fundamental to finding a partner.
Experts have also considered this question and have started, after the confinement, some research that will help you to know how single people are handling the quarantine. In this regard, I had the opportunity to read an article from the EFE Agency which, from the experience of two psychologists, Enric Valls and Gracia Vinagre explain some details on the subject.
According to Valls (2021):
*"For many people, "happiness depends on having a partner relationship", and this need to be with someone can lead to a state of emotional dependence and suffering, and even to toxic relationships by maintaining a partner without being satisfied or happy with them".
We can observe then, that those single people who supercede happiness to companionship may feel frustrated and lonely. Being estranged from someone they may have been dating, or simply not having found a partner before the pandemic, can be frustrating if not well managed.
Some people have even been confined to one location and have not been able to unite with a partner because of travel restrictions, which can bring sadness and despair. All this is the result of beliefs or messages established in society that have led us to think that, without a partner, we will not be happy.
On this subject, psychologist Vinagre (2021) tells us that this situation has led us to get to know better the person with whom we might want to meet, and this has been facilitated by new technologies. A video call, frequent messages, calls and other things have allowed you to see beyond the physical and the immediate.
In Spain, an online dating app called Meetic, perhaps similar to the well-known Tinder, carried out an internal study to find out about this post dating situation and found that 69% of singles in that country consider that this is the worst time to find a partner and that motivation has unfortunately declined.
Personally, I believe that this quarantine could have helped us to have an intimate encounter with our inner self, with our strengths, weaknesses and fears. Perhaps, it has been an opportunity to get away from the hustle and bustle and come into ourselves, because at the end of the day, if we don't love ourselves, how can we love and know others.
Life is dynamic, sometimes we will be alone and sometimes we will be with others, but always with ourselves. Learning to value both modalities and feeling happy is a personal matter, which should be a priority.
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Hi friend, certainly feeling good about yourself should be much more important than having to be with someone, for me loneliness is not a bad thing, on the contrary, it all lies in our mental and emotional health. If we feel good being alone I think that is the best time to be able to share with someone else. Greetings.
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That's right, solitude is an opportune moment to construct and deconstruct oneself. After all, if we are not happy with ourselves, how can we be happy with another?
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Covid-19 has created everyone life into loneliness. Those friends and family who meet every weekend are now connect with the mobile and video calls. This situation has crested a huge gap between the relationship of everyone and this situation will continue till the third wave will not over.
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