Better Living: Thinking About the Time to Say Goodbye!

Most of us are raised with the principle of our friendships and relationships being things that last for a long time; ideally forever.

But how realistic are such expectations, really?

One of the dilemmas counseling clients often bring to be is the situation that is "Too good to leave, too bad to stay in."

It's a very worthy question, because most of life's questions don't tend to fall into clearly defined "yes" or "no" boxes. Instead there are lots of gray areas and uncertainty... and that is what makes choosing quite a challenge, quite often.

In order to make a wise decision, I always suggest that the first thing we must do is set aside outside expectations. Let us remember that our lives are OUR lives; we're not here to "make SOCIETY happy," but to make ourselves happy.

And no, that's not a selfish thing to think!

Is This Serving My Highest and Best Good?

This is an important question to ask. We may have been taught that "quitting is for quitters," but even if our job is well paying, if we loathe going to work and we feel stressed out every day we're there... are we really doing ourselves a favor by staying?

Certainly, the idea of quitting a job might be scary... but it's also an opportunity to find a better situation.

In relationships and friendships, what often happens is that people change over time, and particularly will grow at different rates. You may be constantly evolving and bettering yourself, while your childhood friend seems stagnant and unchanging. Old "messages" aside, is it really serving either of you to maintain a connection that's a source of frustration to both of you?

Sometimes, the only way we can really feel like we are moving forward with our lives and getting better as people is to let go of those connections that just don't feel right.

That can even be the case with our marriages, or primary relationships. I'm certainly no advocate for divorce, but I'm also no advocate for suffering, purely in service of maintaining a principle.

Some relationships simply aren't *mean" to be "forever!"

Thanks for visiting, and Bright Blessings to all!

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