"Misery Loves Company," the old saying goes.
And there's little doubt that a lot of people almost enjoy complaining about everything that is wrong with their lives. Or — at least — what they perceive to be wrong with their lives.
One of the things I have occasionally had to do with clients is earnestly ask them whether they just wish for me to listen to them complain, or do they actually intend to do something about the things they are complaining about.
Of course, there are a variety of reasons why people engage in "fault finding missions."
The field of psychology has long been aware that one of the ways we try to make ourselves feel better about our lives when things are not going well, is to point out things gone wrong... in hopes of garnering a sympathetic ear that will — on some level — tell us that "it's OK."
Alternately. we go in search of things other people are doing wrong, and complain about them as a way to divert ourselves from having to look within, at our own struggles.
Of course, there's nothing wrong with having empathy for people who are struggling, but we must also be mindful of the fact that excessive enabling can cause a person to sink into a state of "Learned Helplessness."
Whereas we may want to hear that "it wasn't our fault," it doesn't serve us well when it actually was our fault and there was an important lifelesson to be gained from owning that we made a poor decision.
In the end, only we can decide whether or not to take action and deal with the things that are going wrong in our world... or just sit around and complain about them. To be sure, the complaints path will change nothing... except you might lose a few friends who grow tired of listening to your moping about!
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