Similarities: First Love, Second Love, Third Love

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Are you an expert on love? Can you tell the difference between True Love and Great Love? Is there such a thing? Is my love for you the same as my love for you so much? Or are these just similarities and we're exaggerating? According to one study, a person can fall in love with three different people in their lifetime.

1. First Love

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This love usually occurs when we are too young. During our high school years, or as highschool sweethearts. Most people expect this to last forever, only to realize they can't handle a lot of differences, and we still don't know how to deal with those challenges, whether they come from attitude, family, vices (if there are any), or passion. As a result, it decides to call it quits. Some partners were fortunate to find their "meant to be" or "Great Love" at a young age and marry that same person, but in most cases, this love fails because we are still too young to deal with all the difficulties that may arise in a relationship.

We may also argue that our first love was not a true love because it did not end well, but it was. It is TRUE because at the time, that was the definition of Love for us. Just that as we get older, we realize there is so much more to life than giving chocolates, flowers, cakes, and dates.

2. Second Love

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This is the most painful love. This is referred to as "hard love," and it is at this point that you realize you should have set a standard. It is when you mature. You begin to consider better what-if scenarios, but it becomes so difficult to give up that it becomes a vicious cycle. Getting hurt all over again with the same problem.

3. Third Love

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This was not something you expected. This Love comes when you least expect it, especially if you are trying to get over a Second Love. Unlike in the past, Loves, I believe you will mature in this role, but it will be easy for you. It will be the love you never thought you needed after all your previous loves. This Love will show you that you are deserving of more.

Now where the Similarities falls?

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It does not imply that your FIRST, SECOND, and THIRD LOVES will all come from different people. There are times when you will only meet ONE person in your life and feel ALL OF THIS. In some cases, the individual may have matured and changed for the better in order to keep you. Just that, in some unfortunate cases, people may have met their Great Love while already married. On the other hand, some people who adore each other will experience Second Love. It's as if they would face so many odds and have so many people against them that they would give up, but despite finding a different person they may have chosen to be with, their heart would still secretly long for that past love that they had to let go.

We have both similarities and differences; it is up to us to figure out how to deal with them. One thing that a couple may have in SIMILAR is their relationship motto: "We will only fight but we will not break up." Things will work if you have a similar mindset and are willing to grow together.

My mother's best friend is the subject of one of my favorite love stories. When they met the man she is now married to, they were both trying to move on from their previous loves, but despite the passage of time, they have not developed the same feelings for those people. I'm not sure if it's just a lack of effort or if they haven't realized it yet. But when the man met his former love, he was out of reach for a few months as he attempted to live with her. My mother's best friend, on the other hand, was unaffected because she realized she didn't love the man at all, but they have children. She was just frustrated that the man had stopped sending what they agreed for the kids, at least for her kids, because she works and owns her own bakery shop, and she does not rely on the man's income, which is usually delayed or not given to them for a couple of months. By the way, the man was working abroad.

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We really don't know who or how many people we'll have to meet before we find our Great Love, but that doesn't mean the love we felt in previous relationships was or wasn't TRUE.

Final thoughts...

Whatever love you are currently experiencing, remember that you are valuable. Do not put your happiness in the hands of others, and instead learn to love yourself so that if you do experience Second Love, you will still have something left for yourself.

I referred to the information in the link below, but what I stated in this article was my own understanding and words based on what I had read and experienced, as well as what I learned from other people: