''At the end of the day, if I can say I had fun, it was a good day'' - Simone Biles.
Although many times, when we fail, we do not understand why we are not able to assume the failure as a new opportunity, but rather we focus on singling ourselves out, judging ourselves and creating mental barriers that limit us, depress us and push us down blind alleys. That is where the lack of self-esteem comes in.
In short, self-love is nothing more than loving oneself. It seems silly, but to tell the truth in some people it is an almost impossible task and an implausible speech. But it is the basis of emotional stability and a direct path to the success to which we aspire so much. And although you can't buy it in a store, this is the first true love that everyone should have.
Lack of self-love can lead to feelings of loneliness, self-destructive behaviors, allowing others to abuse you or assaulting others. And it is a monster that grows with time and breaks the relationship that we should have with ourselves, which is for life. It is said that the way you treat others is the mirror of the love you have for yourself.
''Everything seems impossible until it is done'' - Nelson Mandela.
Let's look at the following situations:
In the world we have people who claim to support others to achieve what they want, but when they do achieve it, they try to sabotage those achievements. Precisely these people are trapped within an archetype of the executioner who acts influenced by the lack of dreams that they have discarded, internal frustration, harming those around him or her.
On the other hand, we find those who have the archetype of the martyr, who seeks at all costs to stand out above the rest and does not mind taking someone else's life in order to achieve his objectives. The selfishness of these people is a product of the abuse of third parties in the past, who sowed in them a lack of empathy.
But, what does the above have to do with my self-esteem? Well, self-love will lead you to avoid becoming the types of people mentioned above or being immune to them. Because the love you feel for yourself leads you to take care of yourself, to respect yourself and to always give the best of yourself. Likewise, this love is expressed to all those around us, because loving oneself is coherent with the good things we want to achieve, with personal fulfillment and our harmony with the environment.
For some, it is an innate process. For others, it is a challenge that requires will and time. Because it begins the moment we accept our defects, seeking to improve, having patience and love. Trying to be close to everything that is good for us. Not generating false expectations or influencing narcissistic behavior.
Be honest with ourselves and see the good in us, recognizing our limits. Loving all of our virtues and having tamed our weaknesses. To distance ourselves from everything that harms us and to do everything possible to avoid behaviors that threaten our health or the proper functioning of our organism. Be clear that we deserve the best, but that there is much more pleasure in giving than in receiving.
''There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it.''
-Edith Wharton.
Do not be afraid to give love, because whatever we sow, we reap in some way. Do not take anything personally, living in the present and finding in the obstacles a mechanism to overcome our fears, which will make us wiser and more capable of facing any challenge.
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Translated into English with the translation tool of DeepL.
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