I really sensed that you put allot of effort into your post and it caught my attention.

Ok, thank you for the clarification. I very much agree that we are all still learning.

I will straight tell anyone that I do not want to nor do I love everyone. I am slow to forgive, and I agree with your list and could expand on it tremendously.

Where as I do appreciate your acceptance and am very glad to have that clarified i do want to point out that medically speaking its not "life choices" so much as "biology" its a big point and I would appreciate your acknowledgment of this point or at least acknowledgment that you have read this portion.

That's a great card! Thank you for sharing it.

So I consider it simply part of conversation. Asking for clarification, talking it out. Its not eggshells, its seeking understanding respectfully. That's how we grow. Its hard at times but that's the process.

So here is where our understanding deviates and I just needed some clarification on your understanding. Sorry if I appeared harsh Just trying to be firm, honest and clear.

The problem your having in understanding who I am is that to you, I was born a boy. I was not born a boy. I was assigned the sex of male at birth, but I, me, Penny, has never been gendered male. I am a women, I was born a women and I will die a women regardless of any surgery I may or may not have. Even currently I am legally a women in the eyes of the state, I take hormones, have had a lower surgery (not the main one) Biologically I am a women.

I prayed for my chest as a young girl, asked my mom when exactly I was going to have a vagina when I was a tween, I was banned from wearing dresses after I turned seven. I suffered through a testosterone driven puberty, I was not given any answers, it was the 90's there was no language for what I am I was told to deal with it and shut up about it. I was told to go out into the world and be a boy, then later a man.

If you want to understand me, put yourself in my story. Not an imaginary "boy you" just you, as you where born. Think about what your life would be if in your world everyone around you told you you where a boy, imagine walking out of your front door and the whole world tells you that you are a man. That's how I am living. Everyday my whole life, but now I can yell back and I am just not a women who bends knee.

Q stands for queer. It represents a marginalized group ,in our community, I associate as Queer, I am also transgender.

First its transgender not transexual they are two different things.

When you enter the space of a constently attacked minority the first few conversations are going to be aggresive, you need to understand that its natural. I get attacked online and in life all day. Your post is the eighth one I have responded to today plus an eight hour work day and an hour at the gym, couple blog post, ect. Until I know your not a troll wasting my time or trying to hurt me you bet im defensive and aggressive. I mam on edge, people tell me every day they want me dead, its taxing, but I am sorry it makes you uncomfortable. I will try to tone it down moving forward.

Talks like this are how we grow. I am willing to talk and to listen and learn with people who are honestly interested in learning and listening. We are all just people, I love to educate I just have a low tolerance for some things and can get aggressive when defending my right to exist. I am very glad we are talking @nicoleperdue42