My husband and I have been married for eight years and live with his mother. Relations with our mother-in-law were not ideal, but we tried not to interfere in each other's affairs in order to keep the family calm.
But everything changed when my mother-in-law fell ill. When the question arose who will take care of her, Lena had to quit her job. He's a son and besides, I earned a lot more than him.
At first everything was fine. I understood that I need help and I hoped it was temporary. But when his mother's mum was already almost healed, for some reason, he was not in a hurry to return to his old job.
At first there were excuses that he was looking for another job, because he does not like it in terms of money. Then I realized that my husband was just used to being at home and was not going to work. He was supported in this, and my mother.
She told me that she could not do without his help. Said that he takes her to the dacha, and it's easier for me, because he helps me around the house, goes shopping. The fact that a man should not engage in housekeeping, but provide for a family, they do not want to recognize.
But since there was not enough money, I began to borrow work for myself and eventually spent more and more time at work. And somehow this gradually became the norm in our family.
Working almost without days off, I managed not only to improve our financial situation, but also to make a career, to solve my problems with appearance through money. My husband says that it was thanks to him that I achieved everything that he refused to work for me and my mother.
But all of this seriously alienated us from each other. We spend less and less time together, and sometimes I see that we do not even have anything to talk about. I hate that my husband sits at home, even if the money is all right.
My life consists of the fact that I still spend most of the time in the office, and sometimes I do not even want to go home. I feel that our relations are not going to get better, but the divorce has not yet been decided.