Love to God means a strong love to those who are close.
If a person can not see the suffering of his wife and his children, how can he say that he loves God?
God is primarily manifested in people who are surround us.
If God in the heart of the wife is offended, if the God in the heart of the children is offended, then there can be no question of any kind of love. And is not God in those bodies that suffer near? The love of God means a strong love for those who are close.